My step-brother has a crush on my best friend, and she likes him too, but I don't want them to date because if they do they will ignore me when they are, and if they break up it will be very awkward to have both of them around. I've already voiced my oppinion about it, and he doesn't care, but she went out with my cousin behind my back before and they tried hiding it from me, and it broke up our friendship for 6 months... I don't want the same thing happening to me and her again. He went to her house the other day and lied to me about it, then they kissed, and she told him to tell me and he never did, so when I found out I got really upset. I feel like they are starting to hate me because of me not wanting them to date, but I just don't want a repeat of us not being friends, and him hating me. Him and I share a room too, so I really don't want him hating me. What should I do?
2006-09-12 04:45:17 · 16 answers · asked by Ramo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes it is.
If they will be happy together then you have no right to stop them.
Even if you think they won't work out it's down to them to find that out.
2006-09-12 04:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is by mutual agreement. As much as you care about your friend, you don't really have friendship unless there is trust on both sides.
You also have to have two people who willingly enjoy the friendship in order to have a bond that will never break.
It doesn't sound like this friend of yours has been completely honest, so I don't know what kind of friend she really is.
Also, if they want to date, your interference will only make things worse. If they ignore you, then she isn't really a true friend. Do yourself a favor and move on. Look for some real friends. I made my best friends at church.
As for your step brother. I'm assuming you are a girl from the various questions you posted. If you are old enough to date, why are you sharing a room with a boy, especially one who isn't a blood relative. That's a huge problem, bigger than the best friend one. You really should get a separate room.
2006-09-12 11:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by adammparmenter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother married my best friend when she was 16 years old, he was 19. She was pregnant when I introduced them and she planned on giving the baby up for adoption. He fell in love, married her and they kept the baby. I was not as upset as you seem to be by all of this and actually it brought us all a little closer together. Predictably the broke up six years later, but they have wonderful children, grown now and my brother raised them as a single parent for a long time. I think you should be more open to their relationship. They are going to follow their hearts and do what they want regardless of how you feel. Maintain the relationships you have with both of them throughout and if they break up you may not have as difficult of a time as you are predicting.
2006-09-12 11:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... Could be a very touchy situation. You could no longer tell your innermost secrets to your best friend without fear of her sharing them with your step-brother. That in itself defeats one of the biggest purposes of having a best friend. On the other hand, if you try to interfere, you'll most likely cause a repeat of the situation you described. Stay out of it.
2006-09-12 11:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a guy right? its obvious that your step bro doesnt think the same as you. he doesnt really seem to care abt your feelings. you know what? he's not the only companion that you can find. maybe you should get a girlfriend too. or if you dun wanna, find your friends. you gotta accept the fact that everyone will leave you sooner or later or you leaving them. it's something that happens to everyone. each and everyone of us will have our own life. i understand what you feel but don't you think it will be unfair for your step bro if you keep on stopping him from getting a gf?
2006-09-12 12:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too self-centered. It is possible that you might like your step brother which is so gross. You are suppossed to be happy to join two people who actually have a natural connection and it's two people that you love. Come on stop expressing jelousy and do the right thing. If you love them you should want them happy
2006-09-12 11:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain yourself and your concerns to them. ultimately they will probably end up both being angry with you for trying to split them up even though they like eachother so you might as well just go along with it. you never know it may work out really well. get yourself a man a double with them, it could be fun. just let them both know that you just dont want things to feel awkward if things dont work out. but your going to have to accept it because otherwise, theyll probably end up seeing eachother behind your back again which will just cause more problems. a little hint...
when you try to keep 2 people from being together, it just strenghthens their desire to be together. if you at least PRETEND to accept it, things will be more relaxed and if they are not meant to be together, it will fall apart sooner. dont force anything. good luck.
2006-09-12 11:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how can logically interfere and not make things worse. Let things happen as they may. You're probably being a bit selfish here and worring too much about what "might happen."
2006-09-12 11:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are being selfish get a life of your own and u wont feel left out if they break up and they wont if they really like each other then b there to comfort them
2006-09-12 11:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Beautiful chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly care about your brother then you'd pray him to have your best friend as a date...or even as a wife!
2006-09-12 11:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Oyesiri E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋