Some people seem to lack what being married should mean...why is that? I have so much love for mine after being together for 5 years. We are a blended family. He is my best friend. He gave me 2 wonderful step-sons. Hes not a perfect man, but no one is perfect. It seems like there are so many selfish people in this world now days that everyone just gives up when times get tough, people cheat, they lie, i just dont understand where peoples morals and values went. and why its so hard to be a loving family that compromises and works together. Why cant people figure out if getting married is the "right" thing to do before jumping in with both feet. No one is perfect, tough times do and will happen, its how you work through them that matter. Of course we have our fights,and things like that just like everyother couple out there.But even in those times i love this man more than anything.what has happened with todays couples?Im just curious because the divorce rate is nuts :) have a good day!!
2006-09-12 04:39:32 · 9 answers · asked by jess_n_flip 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I totally understand your thinking here. I'm married, now for 13 years, and good years. Your so right about the fact it does take work, and no one is perfect. I feel if,people/ couples would love each other as God loves them. Things would be better for all types of relationships, marriage is to me a special union under the eyes of God. I feel there are a lot of confused people in marriages, believing that they are in love, and sadly I think not all but some it is lust. So marriage isn't.'t taken seriously, to some people. As far as it being 50/50 I honestly feel it is 100/100. I know I personally give and I don't do it in respect of getting anything in return other than Love and respect back. Doing for your partner/spouse should be done out of love for the other. with no acceptations. I get enjoyment out of doing for my husband. please don't think we are perfect, we're not. but we are happy and IN love with each other. I hope you could make since of my reasoning, This is just my opinion. Your question was thoughtful. God Bless.
2006-09-12 05:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem to take your marriage very serious, But you didn`t mention how your husband feels,THIS seems to be the problem, one person in the marriage thinks all is well, BUT one day the other person in the marriage just up and wants a divorce, whan you think all is well and going good, but the other person never tells the truth,you have no idea what is going on in their minds, because the truth about how they feel ,they never tell you, you may hear every day how much they love you, then the next day, they have found someone else .The world has gottn to where you cannot trust anyone.
2006-09-12 11:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it takes two people to feel like this. Unfortunately, people and circumstances change as life goes on. As you say, no one is perfect, but it is hard to judge the world in this manner. I started out loving my husband with all my heart, working things out in a loving and compromising manner. As time went by, I was doing more compromising than he was. Until one day I woke up and found myself completely engulfed in a one way marriage. Becoming so busy taking care of my family and husband that I lost myself in it.
It is a wonderful thing to work things out with a husband that is on the same page as yourself. I hope and pray that it all stays together. I recently left my husband after 24 years of marriage and 26 years of knowing him, or at least thinking I knew him. I don't consider my marriage to be a failure, because, in my opinion, I would not consider a 26 year relationship with the same man to be a failure. But we grew in different directions, and even though one of us was willing to work it out, the other found it very hard to do so.
So, although, I do agree that there are many relationships that give up very easily, each and every one of them has their own issues, and sometimes, even though you may want to try it out, there is no other choice but to move on. I don't believe any mature couple gets into a relationship thinking, well, if it doesn't work out, then I'll just move on.
2006-09-12 12:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it! People are selfish and some are spoiled, when I was a kid I was punished and I learned right from wrong, that is where my morals came from, that is where my common sence also came from now days people don't have either! (You can't punish your children, you'll just get thrown in jail when you try and the children laugh at you what good is this I'm not saying abuse your children when their bad but as parents our rights have been takin' away so what morals or common sence will they learn?), I also think it has a lot to do with the generations. Not to mention some are just so young when they marrie just children themselves, how about this those who marry someone just so someone else can be a U.S. citizen those people go toward that rate too... Marriage is for the serious, honest & mature!
2006-09-12 11:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm.. well.. You said it yourself. Too many people jump into it.. some people think their spouses will settle down or change after they get married.. but.. your husband is in that same catagory.. he is remarried to you... I have been divorced 2 times and am currently separated.. No man or woman is worth me getting hit.. and my children bearing witness to it. What works for you, doesn't work for all.. and not everyone is going to find their sole mate!
In the end, my daughter will see no one.. not even a boyfriend, fiance or husband has a right to put their hands on her and my son will see that is NOT how you treat a woman you love.
2006-09-12 11:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because some people don't look at a marriage like you both have to give a 100%. also marriage is a give and take situation. and some people either give or just take.
2006-09-12 11:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by ms01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. People use divorce as an easy out when they can't get along anymore. We have been married 19 years and it hasn't been all that easy. We have our fights and work things out.
2006-09-12 12:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what works for you doesn't seems to work for everyone else. so sad @ the end of the day what's wrong with being happy & in love.
2006-09-12 11:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People expect more out of their partner than they are williing to give themselves. Because they are selfish. I love and respect my husband, and he loves and respects me.
2006-09-12 11:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋