My girlfriend and I have been living together for about a year. At one point we had really great sex but recently its been happening less and less, use to be everynight, now maybe 1-3 times a week and will probally get worse. Also, I have been having feelings latley that are getting stronger to fool around with other guys. She knows that i a am curious due to the fact that she came accross some websites that i visited, XXX sites with guys. She wasnt pleased-acually started to cry but i told her that thats not what i want and that i love her, which i do but the urge is killing me more and more. I dont want to hurt her. I told her that i wasnt going to act on it and it hasnt came up again for about a month, but i fear soon enough i will give in. Im 23 and havent really had much time to experiement because of numerous deployments and kind of jumped into living with her when i got home from my last. What should i do, and do i have a chance of having a loving relationship with her?
2006-09-12 04:12:01 · 13 answers · asked by MR. Poland 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
You have a lot of soul searching to do. It sounds like you really already have the answer but you don't know what to do about that answer. A lot of guys have been in your shoes and we all made it through the hard times to come out happier in the end.
You need to first be fully honest with yourself and decide if you are gay, bisexual or straight. Then you need to be honest with her.
You need to talk to someone and exporess your feeling and talk this through. Drop me an e-mail anytime to talk!
2006-09-12 04:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many things to consider and this is just my advice on some of them...you need to decide if you are gay, bi-sexual or just bi-curious. At this point you seem bi-curious and the only way to further evaluate yourself is to experiment. Once you say experiment and decide on what your preferences are, combined with your expectation of relationships; you need to be honest and either addres this with your girlfriend or find a partner that is willing to accept you for who you are. You cant contribute to a successful relationship without being happy with yourself first and that includes knowing who you are.
2006-09-12 11:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion is that you find out what it is you really want...
since you are curious...and once you figure this out you can make this girl aware of what you want and avoid hurting her even more. the best thing to do is let her know asap of what you are up too. if you decide to stay with her i truly believe you have a chance...just put all thats in your hands to make this relationship work and grow stronger. ...she would have to do the same ..it takes two...good luck!
2006-09-12 11:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let her go because you're not sure about your sexuality. Either way she's not going to be happy. So if you just let her go and figure out what you are, it will be easier for her to deal with the hurt than you cheating on her for another man.
2006-09-12 11:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with the devil young man, and you are going to get burned. What should you do? Repent of your wickedness and commit your life to the Lord Jesus Christ. If you and your girlfriend commit yourself to purity, you will be blessed beyond belief. That's what my wife and I did, and we are living proof of the fact that abstinence is the way.
2006-09-12 11:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you can't have both. Why don't you remain single until you figure out what you want to do? No use holding onto her when you're longing to have relationships with guys. Just let her go.
2006-09-12 13:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex life is about to get worse. Now that she knows you are interested in guys(yuck). She should run like hell and not look back.You need to leave find you a place and leave her alone so you don't hurt her feelings anymore.
2006-09-12 12:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by creature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your mate commited to you, she didn't lose her sexuality, she just chose to be with you and became monogomous in her relationship. Just because you are attracted to others (men or women), doesn't mean you can destroy your commitment. You've got to be commited to whom you love, whatever gender they are. Work things out with your partner, if and when you decide to break up then you can pick whatever gender you're interested in next, but NOT while you're commited to someone. I'm not condoning homosexuality, but I know one thing; it's unconscionable to not be true to the person you're with. You want to play? set her free first.
2006-09-12 11:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself & your feelings. It's better to hurt her now by being honest than to drag it out & hurt her so much more later on.
2006-09-12 11:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are confused totally. You need to make your mind up so you can let her go and be happy while you exsperiment
2006-09-12 11:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine_gurl32276 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋