It's an ex-gf of mine ... we saw eachother after about 3 years and sparks flew ... just like before we broke up, but, now I'm married and have a sense of less importance towards my wife since I've been with this girl again. It's really hard and ugly, because, my wife is sooo loving and always happy and kills me to see her so in love. Please only serious answers!!!
2006-09-12 04:11:49 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married for a 1.3 years and have no kids
2006-09-12 04:19:42 · update #1
Please get past the sparks and go for the loving wife and long road. You will never regret it. Make some sparks in your own marriage!!! She may love it!
2006-09-12 04:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by watergirl54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your going to get answers about what a terrible person you may be for letting this happen, or for hurting a beatiful, happy woman, but lets move on to the issue now. You have a decision that is going to influence, and affect the rest of your life. On one side you have the ex. Do you think that she is serious about you and her and it will turn into the exciting, lustful marriage, or relationship that you want for the rest of life. To have children, and then grandchildren with? OR on the other side the wife has to know. It's really not fair to her to have this secret from her, and to tell you the truth the marriage will not ever be as close or you too deeply in love if this border is holding back what could be such a fulfillful and happy marriage. Yes she's going to be hurt, and pissed for a while, and could leave, but you already went past the point into an affair and you can't expect her to just say oh well. If the marriage is worth the fighting for and work to put back together than you need to take that deep breath and just do it. Remember the ex was an ex for a reason, and that woman can be very spiteful, and hateful creatures (except me ) lol. and she may want to deep down see if she can ruin a happy marriage, Please think hard and serious about what you think you want for the rest of life, because after going through all that is to come, you wont ever want to do it again.
2006-09-12 11:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sh-t that's bad. You do realise that if you don't make a change in this, you will waste your life. I don't want to sound like a psychic, but your destiny is in your hands, and if you don't do anything about it, things will remain the way they are. You will be scared to tell your wife about this, but then if you don't, try to understand how you will live your life thinking about what you missed, waht would have happened if you did it another way. You could end up with a woman you love, instead of staying with a woman who loves you more than you love her. You would be unhappy, unless those sparks were just temporary infatuation. You will waste your life, because you were afraid to do something else.
Second of all, the wife will feel it if you are distracted an dthink about someone else. They always do, and then it will be even worse. She will be unhappy. Figure it out with her.
Or, stick with her, if you realise that you do love her. I agree with some others that there is a reason she is your ex. Both sides are very hard, and you have to make a choice.
2006-09-12 11:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be looking at why you broke up in the first place with the gf. You should never have been with this girl again you are married. My serious answer is you're gaga over this old gf again and now the only way out of it is going to be painful to your loving happy wife since you are asking what to do I am presuming you want to know how to tell your wife by the way I'm still in lust with my old gf. This kind of situation is never nice so the answer is who are you going to think about your wife or an old girlfriend who you once broke up with. You are supposed to put your wife first. There are always what ifs. What if you dump your wife and find out that things are not great with old gf are you going to want your wife back? If you tell your wife that you have been back with your old gf but you want to stay together she will never trust you again.
2006-09-12 11:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember
remember any new love or feelings that u have for someone like u have for this women is NEW and EXCITING almost always.If your wife is good to u don't think what could be better because there are a lot of bitches out there.Sparks will fly u haven't seen her in a long time that is normal not nothing wrong w that , but not a reason to let your wife down.It is an EX you've been there done that.I married very young and been married 16 years don't let these new exciting feelings end your marriage Be a friend only to her and as hard as it sounds if you feel it becoming more stop.If u don't u will never be so confused and your wife who sounds cool will be emotionally scarred forever.Hope this helps.
2006-09-12 11:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by WTF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this question didnt sound like a joke I wouldnt be answering this one, I also dont give a damn abt 2 points at the moment but if you want a serious answer to a question thats more than a joke here goes :
1. Check your bank balance.
2. Say all your prayers..(if you do)
3. Be prepared for the worst from your wife...
( I wish she can skin u when she hears this, probably wont)
4. Prepare a directory listing for all the city's lawyers.
5. Burn your wedding album, (just in case u find it 3 years hereafter and waste 5 points on yahoo questions trying to contemplate what to do, all over again!!!)
2006-09-12 11:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your just reminising about what you had before. Kind of missing the single life or the moment when you weren't married. If your wife is so wonderful then why is that you have an interest to cheat?! Think about why you and your ex-girlfriend aren't together in the first place. Does your ex-girlfriend want to give it a second chance with you? I have so many unanswered questions for you. Before you make a big life altering decision by ending your marriage you should count the pros and cons first. Think about the facts here. Imagine your life without your wife maybe 2 years from now. Does your ex-girlfriend still feel the same way about you? You should ruin a marriage over a chance meeting ( meaning you just happened to bump into her out of the blue ) with an ex-girlfriend. Also, that feeling of not wanting to hurt your wife comes from you not really being sure about divorcing her and jumping into the unknown with your ex-girlfriend. Thank about it. Talk it over with your ex-girlfriend first before your wife. If this ex-girlfriend doesn't feel the same way about you and you kind of really don't feel the same way about her then you shouldn't upset your wife and cause an uproar in your marriage over a moment of insanity. Your wife sounds like a really nice lady and I would hate for you to lose her or hurt her over an old EX girlfriend.
2006-09-12 11:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, you should have thought about your wife before you started seeing this other girl. You owe it to your wife to make a decision. You need to stop seeing this ex girlfriend while you think about what you want to do. Either get a divorce and go with the ex girlfriend. or come clean, tell your wife that you want to work on your marriage and give up the other woman. Don't treat your wife with disrespect. You need to be a man and make the decision.
2006-09-12 11:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me you will always regret trading in your wife for lust. There will be many times in your life that women will turn your head, just take a deep breath and remember all the good things and times you have had with your wife and stay steady on the course. No one knows till they have broken their vows just how low you will feel about yourself for the rest of your time here. Your wife has something that drew you to her...keep telling yourself all the reasons you chose her. Good Luck!!
2006-09-12 11:17:15 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's common for married man to fall in love with another woman but you should assess yourself. are you really really in love with that other woman?....will you sacrifice your marriage for the other woman?.. are you ready for the separation or divorce for you to live with the other woman?...If you are sure of all these answer, I would suggest that you be honest with your wife informed her of the relationship, let her decide if she can tolerate this kind of marriage If not at least you can separate and she will have the chance to look for someone who will really love her. and its not a bothersome at least you do not have kids yet.
2006-09-12 11:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by ETan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋