but she expects people to buy her gifts. She says that she has no money to buy anyone any gift but she manages to travel frequently abroad for months at a time. Its her birthday soon, should i get her a present or just a card.
2006-09-12 04:04:42 · 17 answers · asked by tressa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
in addition, I believe the way people treat you is the same way you treat them so they know how it feels like.
2006-09-12 04:08:08 · update #1
Depends on how important her friendship is to you. A true friend accepts their friend with all their faults. She may be stingy, but she is your friend. Do what you feel is right.
2006-09-12 04:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by ask the eightball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, as you say, this person does have $$ to purchase items and travel when she desires, I might not even go as far as sending a card. But, I do know individuals that "don't believe" in purchasing gifts for others, but these few don't expect them neither. I might try to find out why she doesn't send, or buy gifts, if she's a real close friend, if not - send a card without a stamp and if she wants it she'll have to pay the postage!
2006-09-12 11:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always make her a present. Then you're still giving her something, but not spending any money on her, since she won't spend money on you or anyone else. Cuz if she's a good friend, you don't want to lose her over birthday presents. But you're right to feel a bit jipped. Give her a picture of the two of you in a dollar store frame or something. You can make a lot of really cute presents. Good luck!
2006-09-12 11:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by mrs. vader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would get her a card. if she gets mad, just say to her that well its not fair that everyone should buy u gifts when you never buy for anyone else. or just tell her that u dont have any money to buy her a gift either. she may have some hidden debts or habits that no one knows about and is telling the truth about not having money. but if thats true, she shouldnt expect any gifts from others either. be honest, if shes truly a friend, shell listen and understand.
2006-09-12 11:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shame that she has not learned the joy of giving!
I have a friend who is just the same way!
Some folks are givers and some are takers, and some are an even balance of the two. Regrettably, I let my friend walk on me
(of course, me- the enabler!) for 30 years! She rarely remembered me in my days, but demanded that the spotlight be ON HER for her occasions! Whined and cried that no one would remember, then I'd find myself breaking my neck to make it happen for her.
(I Felt badly for her as she had no mother and a mean father...)
Long story made short, this year I stopped.
Christmas, Birthday and the lot.
Now, I just make her a personalized card on my computer, stamp it and send it to her. I use poems and prose to illustrate the things we cannot wrap up, like love, gentleness, kindness, beauty, appreciation, friendship, and peace!
I think she has now found a new relationship to milk somehwere else, and I am happy for her.
I am at peace over my choice, and you may find the same thing!
Blessings!
2006-09-12 11:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know three people like that. I'm glad im no longer friends with them. In the long run it winds up causing too many headaches. Unfortunately one of them is an aunt and i cant always avoid her.
Buy her a card and then watch her get annoyed. Good riddence.
People like that are not worth the hassle. They never come through for you for the same reason.
2006-09-12 11:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Triskelion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh' it s the no Birthday present friend syndrome.
Let me sya this and say this once. When you know that someone is not truly correct in a sense, maybe it is time to choose your friends more wisely, but presents are in no way a major factor to lose a friend opver if in fact there is a freindhsip involved...laugh it off.
2006-09-12 11:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get her anything. just say u have no money for a card or present. she knows how it feels not bein able to get her friends anything. No worries:p maybe then she will have money and start getting presents for u and the rest of her friends.
2006-09-12 11:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by luvin21_f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send her an Email wishing her a happy B-day and explain that you just can't afford it. And then in the same Email tell her that you have just booked a real expensive cruise.
2006-09-12 11:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by slanteyedkat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a card sounds perfect! Oh -- and you don't need to explain yourself--ever, especially to someone like that.
2006-09-12 11:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋