Why is it that relationships these days seem more likely to break up than it was a few years ago..?

Question

When one sits down to analyse the average life time of a relationship, one would realise that lots of people are to eager to join a relationship, which they eventually do, and lots of them fall out of those relationships much faster than they entered them.... and in this era where we have lots of marriage counsellors it still beats me that we are not able to keep into stable relationships with our partners.... pls someone explain this to me...

Answer 1

It could be for a lot of reasons really. In teh past 20 years woman have had more freedom and such like and divorces have become more socially acceptable. Maybe it'sjust people are too busy with work and such to eb bothered to make things work. Also tv, pubs, and general things like that might take over time couples would have orginally spent together, maybe talking about such issues. Maybe people arn't open enough. Or maybe quite a few years ago more people would of split up if they felt in power to do so. Who knows, these are all just guesses.

Answer 2

I think lack of commitment happens in todays western society (it is not universal!) because we dont have to stay with someone and we dont see any value or need to try to make a relationship work.

Years ago women were dependant on men for their home and income, now many women are self sufficient.
Raising children alone carries no social stigma, neither does a failed marriage or relationship.

We watch so many films where couples live happily ever after that we expect it to happen easily to us too, when it doesnt we give up and move on.

When people married and expected it to be for life, 'til death do us part' they did not feel there was an alternative to staying together. For some this meant years of suffering but many people made an effort to keep the peace, to compromise and make it work. Lust waned and waxed again but friendship and companionship led to true and lasting love.

Answer 3

In my opinion it's because people nowadays are never happy with what they have and are constantly looking for someone better. In the end, they're never really happy. If they do find someone who makes them happy, a lot of people simply do not know how to communicate with their partner. When communication goes, the rest soon goes down hill. I also believe another reason that relationships go sour so quickly today is because most people really do not value the true meaning of commitment. As soon as a relationship hits a rough patch, people bail, where people 50 years ago got through it together. It's a shame that relationships have lost so many key components to happiness and people enter into them (relationships) very lightly resulting in failure.

Answer 4

without trying to sound sexist, its because women (rightfully) know they have more of a choice and what they deserve in a relationship, some women take that a step too far and use the seemingly un ending queue of guys that seem to be constantly sniff around any female to bully their partners into a one sided relationship under the threat of running off with some other bloke. I'm not saying blokes are blameless there are a lot of a holes out there that seem to be in a time warp and expect every female to be mummy for them. I think the real problem is that in our modern selfish world expectations are much to high on both sides and when a real situation comes along its easier to break up.......... hope that didn't depress you too much!

Answer 5

Life is so very different these days than it was in my parents time, divorce is easier and money more plentiful. I also believe that people want more out of life so just go and get it. I have been divorces (not my choice) but did marry again and I can tell you that I didn't know what a perfect marriage was till I met my late husband. He has been dead now for 6 months and life is empty without him. We were together for more than 35 years and NEVER thought of leaving each other. That's true love.

Answer 6

It's the disposable society we've become...if something doesn't work - we get rid of it!

People think relationships are easy when the fact of the matter is they take a lot of hard work on both sides!

The reason the divorce rate is going down is because people aren't going to the altar - choosing to live as partners rather than get married.

Answer 7

Relationships are like the rest of things in society today it throw away and start again. People aren't willing to put the commitment into relationships anymore. Ive heard someone just before she went down the aisle, say if it doesn't work out theres always divorce. That says it all, its just too easy to end it

Answer 8

I think part of the problem or possibly most of it is that it has become way too easy for people to divorce or leave another person. I think way back people had more conviction and they took vows and commitments much more seriously than they do today. They worked on their relationships, the had better communication, they tried harder and probably spent more time together. I think the world we live in today has become more about instant gratification than worrying about commitments.

Answer 9

Because people today put wayyyyy too much thought and energy into lust. It's everywhere nowadays. It's on television, in movies, definitely in music and even in commercials selling the most random things like dishwashing liquid. Society just doesn't put any thought into real love and monogamy anymore. Everything is just LUST, LUST, LUST. There is a lack of romance and conscience in the minds of people today. I'm still trying to keep hope alive though.

Answer 10

SImple. Today it is too easy to get out of a relationship so people no longer take the time to think things over carefully or to get to really know each other before getting married or living together.