My husband and I had been trying for a baby. We were so happy about the thought of a baby. Well we found out I am pregnant. My husband is ecstatic. I, on the other hand, am not. I feel horrible about it but sometimes it just makes me sick to my stomach to think about it. HELP ME PLEASE!!!
2006-09-12 04:00:13 · 20 answers · asked by Motivated 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is completely normal, and almost to be expected, whether the pregnancy was planned or not! As you watch your body change, experience the hormonal mood swings, and ponder the awesome responsibility that is now yours, it is natural to feel nervous, and some women even have panic attacks! Your body is being taken over, and once you realize that, it can be a little frightening. Don't make any big decisions right now, and talk to another mom about your feelings. Hubby is not likely to understand. I, too, would sometimes feel my stomach drop, as I thought about the awesome undertaking which is parenthood! Things will settle down, but you may be at risk for postpartum depression. It would be good to discuss your feelings with your obstetrician. They are there for these things, as well! Your mental health and emotional health are important. Some women find it helps to have a counselor for a while as they deal with these new emotions. Don't be afraid to tell your doctor all, and if needed, make a separate appointment just to go in and discuss this issue. Good luck and congratulations! It's a roller coaster, but well worth it in the end!
2006-09-12 04:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're not horrible thoughts. Wanting, trying, and hoping for a baby are totally different from actually having it about to happen in the near future. It's a big decision, and it will come with a lot of emotions. It can be overwhelming to think about how different things will be and how much your life will change. Of course it's normal to wonder if you are ready and if you made the right decision....BUT I guarantee that once your baby gets here you won't be able to figure out why you were so freaked out in the beginning. You'll be overwhelmed with love, etc. Take it one day at a time. It takes a long time to grow a baby, so you have a long time to get adjusted to the idea. You don't have to have everything done, ready, and figured out right now. There's plenty of time to get ready and adjusted. The beginning of a pregnancy is hard anyway because you feel so weird physically, sick, tired, and hormonal. That will pass, and by the time your baby is kicking and moving a lot you will probably be past these feelings and be looking forward to your new future with your new family. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-09-12 04:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by JordanB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just nerves. Like after all this time of trying it's finally happened and the reality is there but it's not. Give it time to sink in and I think you will find that your feelings change.
When I found out I was pregnant, we were NOT trying so it came as a bit of a shock. My fiance was happy, I was not for various reasons, I cried and cried. But after I took some time to myself to get used to the idea and saw how supportive my fiance was, I really became very happy about being a mommy.
Hopefully that happens for you too.
Maybe go to some baby stores and look around. Walk around the mall and people watch. When I found out I was pregnant I went to the park and I swear there were about 10 pregnant women there. I don't know if it was just a freak coincidence or if I was just taking more notice... either way. Doing those things really helped me to warm up to the idea.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-12 05:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way! I really wanted my son but at first I cried and cried after I found out because I felt scared and helpless. After a while you will get use to the thought but may have some days where you are scared and unsure. This is perfectly normal. Once I had my ultrasound and found out I was having a boy all my negative thoughts went away. I was so excited after that and am happy to say that I have a healthy 3 month old son.
Good luck. It may also help to talk to your husband about your fears.
2006-09-12 04:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very normal. My husband and I were trying for 2 years before it finally happened. When I took the test and it said positive my husband was thrilled and I was very upset probably because I was afriad. Believe me it goes away. Oh and I am pregnant with my second now and experienced the same thing this time around. I guess hormones and fear have something to do with it. You will be fine. The first time you hear the heart beat or have a sonogram you will be thrilled.
2006-09-12 08:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by sooz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just nerves, sweetie....I went through the same thing. Except with my daughter it was planned at all! So i had the spur of the moments nerves as well.....Children are beautiful things, and having my daughter made me 10x a better person, as they do everyone. What you are going through right now is like the cold feet of premotherhood. I will tell ya though, one way to try and relax those nerves is to take into consideration that you have a good husband, who is gonna pamper you, wait on you, do ANYTHING to make it easier for you. And a lot of women never get that when they are pregnant. Like with my ex, I got pregnant the day I got married, 3 months, he found out, we got divorced lol.....Losing him.....GREAT.....Having a beautiful little girl to show for it......AMAZING! Oh, and the sickness....lol Get used to it! Saltines will become your best friend ever....lol
2006-09-12 04:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Hailey B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, that happens sometimes, you are just nervous, and scared and freaking about it. That happens...you know, ...it is one thing wanting to have a baby and be trying, and it is another when you realized you are actually getting one in 9 months. It will pass, buy a book, read a lot so you have a guidance through your pg, go to your dr's appointments, and take care. You will love this baby like nothing else in the world. Congratulations!
2006-09-12 04:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally. Just give it time. I was so excited to get pregnant with our first and when it happened at time we didn't expect I was absolutely terrified. As soon as I relaxed a bit, heard tha heartbeat for the first time and saw the ultrasound I was ecstatic.
2006-09-12 04:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by HoosierMommy06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hormones
2006-09-12 04:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Neelam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be the hormones from being pregnant any ways
I felt the same way when I was pregnant but when my baby was born it left and I just fell in love and I know you will too
2006-09-12 04:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋