Despite what everyone says abt u being in love with her....I think that it is possible to be jealous of someone else stealing ur friendship. I felt that when my fren started dating. She never had time for me, or to chat. she was so consumed by him. I felt left out. I think that u have to hang ard your other friends. let her come ard, when she is ready. I know how painful this is. Hug from a stranger.
2006-09-12 04:05:15
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answered by Melissa 2
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You want her and the confusion comes from pangs of jealousy. Without the boyfriend, you spent a lot of your time with her and somewhere in your mind you felt you had a chance. Now you see her giving what you want to someone else. Sucks, I know, but we've all probably been there. If you really care for her, let her be happy with her relationship. You might have missed your chance with this one, but this sort of stuff usually comes up when we're still sorta young, so maybe she's still kinda new to the dating scene also.
If you really do want to be with her, you can only be there when she is ready to spend time with you. No acting in anger or jealousy or resentment or you will push her away in the blink of an eye. Don't pry into her relationship either. Honestly, I wouldn't get your hopes up too much. After two years, if nothing happened, "it's" probably just not there. But live and learn and be ready to turn the next one you find into more than a friend. Just keep your chin up.
2006-09-12 11:12:37
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answered by randyken 6
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Give yourself a break. Find other things to do. She is now with another guy. It is clear that the friendship with you is just that a friendship. Love hurts, give yourself time and space from her. You will find that you needed her more than she did you. All I can see is a broken heart on your part. If her relationship with this man does not work because of you, she will not return as the same friend you once knew. She will look at you as the person who denied her the growth that she needed. Best thing, be there, but not in her face. If it is meant to be, it will happen, just not at the speed you would like. For now try and keep your feelings quite until she is no longer involved in a relationship.
LittleGree
2006-09-12 11:32:01
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answered by LittleGree 1
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First of all you can't judge friendships by the gifts you give each other, that's just stupid and materialistic.
I would say to just go on and let her do what she wants. If she calls you with a problem you can help her out if you want. This decision is going to be hers to make. Don't force her to be your friend if she isn't feeling it any more. I've been there with a friend of mine. We didn't talk for 2 years. Recently she sent me a email saying she missed having me as a friend and wanted to get together for coffee. We did and its like old times again. We had a talk about what happened 2 years ago (she had that whole "I have a boyfriend and no time for you" thing also).
Just give her time, she will realize sooner or later what a great friend you are.
2006-09-12 11:02:51
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answered by Just Me 3
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Sounds like this girl was becoming more than just a friend to you - you may have wanted a more serious relationship, but did not quite know how to go about it, now she has a "real" boyfriend. Don't live in pain, tell her how you are truly feeling if what I just said is a fact, and if there is no connection back from her, let her go, she'll contact you, if she needs or wants to - and who knows, you may not be available for her, you will have found someone else to move on with - Good Luck
2006-09-12 11:05:29
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answered by Anonymous
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She is probably telling you the truth about your friendship, but you must remember, true love is the best of friends and favorite lovers. She thus has a new best friend, and she doesn't want to jeopardize it, by being too friendly with you. For obviously it bothers her mate, and love means not making your mate feel bad.
Therefore, give her space. Find someone else to be friends with also. For the harder you try to be her friend now, the more she feels a need to distance herself from you. Besides, it sounds as if you are a little more desirous of "just friendship" with her, and others can sense this.
2006-09-12 11:06:04
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answered by eric l 3
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Give her the space she needs. If she really believes that you are her dear friend, sooner or later, she'd come around. For your part, keep a part of your heart perpetually open to accept her as before. That will be the best you can do now, under the present circumstances.
2006-09-12 11:03:06
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answered by Bummerang 5
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you in love with her, right? I'm so sorry, but i think the best you can do for her is give her some room. If she really appreciates you, if she really values your friendship, eventually she will come back to you. Remember how new always seems to be better? Let her find out for herself, yes, leave it to her. And try and find new interests yourself, go out, have fun, if it's meant to be she'll end up with you anyways.
2006-09-12 11:02:07
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answered by MICHAEL G 2
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for god's sake, you have asked the same question 12 times!!! we have given you loads of good advice, yet you seem unwilling to use any of it. i think now you need to stop obsessing about this girl and sort yourself out, you sound desperate now. i spent ages and so have others by the looks of it, giving you good advice, and you can't even be bothered to take 2 minutes to pick a best answer. I'm not going to waste anymore time on you, i think you are strange now.
2006-09-12 15:48:00
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answered by Summer Rain 2
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The problem, was: you wern't her boy friend!!! just her best friend! She wanted more than a best friend!! Now, do not pressure her, don 't call her! If she calls you within a few weeks, She loves you. You told her about your feelings, (too late). If she doesn't call you, that means she never loved you, just like a friend!!! Maybe that'll help you next time.
2006-09-12 11:04:05
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answered by alfonso 5
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