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Question

my friend recently told me I shout a lot ...I am not aware of it ...I know I get very passionate about certain topics when we talk ...I like to look at all points of view (I have been known to be the devils advocate in a discussion )...what can I do to get my point across if I feel no one is listening besides shout

Answer 1

You can get your opinion heard at a normal voice as well as you would a loud voice. Shouting only gives the impression that you are insecure about yourself and or your opinions and you feel the need to be overbearing to compensate for that.

A good debater always keeps a clam and cool head.

Answer 2

I do this A LOT b/c my dad does it A LOT so I'm having the same trouble. I feel like the only way I can get my point across is to shout and yell at the top of my lungs. I've had to consciously remind myself every time I shout "That was unnecessary Sparkle stop shouting" I talked to myself enough and it slowly began to work. I still shout when talking to my dad but no with anyone else in my family or network of friends.

Answer 3

Devil's advocate or someone that just likes to argue? Are you passionate about the issue or just want to make a point? Do you sometime feel people are just plain stupid? Step back and think about how you portray yourself. I can tell you that yelling is not going to work out. Learn to strengthen your arguments intelligently and walk away when people don't listen. You sound like you could be related to my family....Good luck and keep it down!

Answer 4

shouting is not a way to be listened. Maybe, they are not getting your point because you are not explaining it well. Try to use simple examples and speak with simple words that let you reach all your audience, despite their age, education or social status.
Remember, there is a huge difference between getting your point and sharing it, no matter how loud you shout, if the don't agree with you, the won't agree whether you raise your voice, use a microphone or whisper

Answer 5

It's called the 'broken record effect.'...you continuously say the same thing during conversations about your passionate topics...However, you have to keep in mind that other people maybe just as passionate about their point of view...those are tough debates...you have to agree to disagree...you understand their point of view but yours is different...therefor you can walk away from a debate without insulting, yelling, or hard feelings. Good luck and it's good to passionate about things

Answer 6

Shouting sometimes takes away your point and theres no need to shout if you speak with the truth and you know your right. Advice you to listen because while you do you can arrange your thoughts, relax yourself and even if your fuming words will come out with no other punch but truth.

Answer 7

haha I think first listen to your self and check if you really have a loud voice. Then "devils advocate" huh? pretty weird and cool but I think change or make a topic besides nobody want to talk about sadist, devils,apocalpyse or something..instead change it to music ,fashion etc..so that people dont give you as a weirdo impression..feel me holla back~

Answer 8

You should engage the other person...by asking them their opinion on the topic...people love to talk as much as you do...if you make it one sided....then people will get tired of you. Show interest in the other person and they are more likely to be interested in what you have to say. There is a difference in lecturing people and having a two way conversation.

Answer 9

Try to get your point across without drowning out what others have to say. Nobody likes an argument if it is all one sided cause they can not be heard. To make a good argument you too have to hear what they are saying.

Answer 10

this has already been asked by someone else today.. tip* dont shout if u want to keep your friends.. whats more important? you getting your point across or keeping your friends..