me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 and a half years i love her more then anything but just havent had a strive to have sex and when we do its not as exciting as it used to be is this normal??
2006-09-12 03:41:05 · 13 answers · asked by blueeyes3313 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is pretty normal thing. I'm not sure of the exact percentage of couples that this happens to. It seems you become more like friends than lovers. It's a pitfal so many get into.
There is no easy answers here, but one answer is not to OPEN up the relationship. This will only add to the stress adn distrust already in the relationship. Most shortly after OPENing up the realtionship fail.
What you need is some changes in your life. You need to make it diferent and exciting again. Often a great vacation somewhere can help rekindle the old flame. Some times a new sexy outfit, or making love someplace new and different can help as well if a vacation can't be arranged.
Get out of the dulldrums, find a new and exciting part of life. Get back out there living life, not exsisting and the excitement, the change should help you out.
2006-09-12 03:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it's normal. It's called lesbian death bed syndrome. But, I think in any relationship the sex is non stop and then after a while when you get into a routine sex isn't as important. My partner and I are going through what you are. You probably won't ever get back that excitement you had the first 6 months of your relationship but what we do to keep our sex life alive is we will have romantic dates and that usually sets us in the mood.
Here is a website to give you more info and tips. Don't worry, it's a normal thing. http://www.ipgcounseling.com/cpr_for_bed_death.html
2006-09-12 14:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is somewhat normal. Perhaps if it seems to be a problem you might want to explore other techniques and such. A relationship isn't built on sex but it does become disconcerting when the drive wanes somewhat. Perhaps working to make it more special each time you "do it" moreso than worrying about the quantity wuld help.
2006-09-12 11:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely normal,as long as the LOVE still functioning well,then you're in good hands. Just remember this, eating your favorite food for even 3 times a week for 2 years will vomit you out.
2006-09-12 10:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by javo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need some counseling. Separate and together. It may be that your relationship is falling out. From this question to your last question ... I feel that you are not 100% sure you still want to be in this relationship and need someone to tell you that it's okay to leave. You are human and your own person. If you aren't happy, why put yourselves through the aggravation. If you want this to work, then you need to both sit down and find a common issue and work on that first.
2006-09-12 10:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by spartexcites 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not normal. Sex drive is not affected by time, only imagination. If you are falling deeply in love, but the sex doesn't follow, you might be in a dad/daughter relationship or a son/ mommy relationship. The sex is good early on, but as the love grows, it is not sex driven, but need and want driven. Perhaps you never had anyone whom questioned your methods as a youngster, now your girl is asking you how you learned how to do this or that, or maybe your moms didn't take special care when you got hurt as a boy, but your girl fusses over you. Well, she is filling a void in your life. So subconsciously, you are loving the girl for that, not her nice rack or tight butt. You see where I'm going with this?
2006-09-12 10:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You're forgetting the old whipping cream and thimble trick. Put a down payment on a motorcycle ramp and Bunny suit, and she'll wake up.......
2006-09-12 18:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by Boliver Bumgut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked a similar question the other day. I am going through the same thing right now.
2006-09-12 10:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by justincausejustintime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is normal...every relationship has its ups and downs in the sex category...give it some time, if it's really love, it will come back
2006-09-12 11:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by batman13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with (javo and batman13)... girl dont worry love can overcome all. hang in there, i know how you feel give it some time. Let me know how it goes.
2006-09-12 11:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by xoxo_ 6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋