2006-09-12 03:36:24 · 26 answers · asked by johnanowlin2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have Patience, you will find love.... Love is not something that you can search through Yahoo or google... True love always finds it own way.
Njoy....
2006-09-12 03:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by sanghvir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of that depends on how old you are. If you're younger than 24 I don't put a lot of stock in your question. You're still growing up.
If you're over 35, then I'm sorry. That's tough. Maybe you should consider what you're demanding in a person and figure out if it's realistic. Have you set the bar so high that no one can meet it? Or maybe you need to consider the person your potential mate is getting. Do you need to make any changes within yourself? Also consider where you are going to meet people. Do you see any patterns that you keep dealing with over an over in your choices? If so, figure out why you keep on being attracted to the same type of person.
2006-09-12 10:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you need to learn to love yourself first. It sounds like you are looking for someone to fill a void in your heart or your soul. This is why so many relationships don't work out. They are looking for someone else to fill that void. I see this will many of my clients. I am a Spiritual Counselor, and learning to love and accept yourself first, is one of the most rewarding things you can do for yourself. To be able to enjoy yourself when you are by yourself is called contentment. So work on yourself and relax and love will fill you up and also find you..
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-09-12 10:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, you've loved.. which means you did taste the feeling of being there, you've also been loved, which means, you were also the center of attention of another heart.
Don't be too picky, you might be in love right this moment, but because you are focusing too much on it, you could actually miss it.
Relax, you'll know its the right love, when you feel yourself fighting for your lover's happiness when your lover is fighting for yours.
2006-09-12 10:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by chilla-z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what kind of love you want? Love is so hard to define. I can't imagine that making rigid categories for it makes it easier to find. Just wait it out, stop trying to make it something particular.
2006-09-12 10:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart!
Honey, are you CLEAR about what you are looking for?
This may be part of the problem.
Most of us wonder why the perfect person has not come along for us, yet we could not describe what he or she would be if there was some sort of magic wish and deliver List to choose from!
My thought on this would be for you to help your brain identify what your heart seeks!
This could be done by making a written Affirmative list to yourself, one that no one else will see, one that you can add to as new thougthts come to yoo.
Our brains will do whatever we tell them...for Better or for Worse!
This is why it is important to speak the truths to ourselves in the affirmative!
For instance, if you say to yourself,"The girl of my dreams will not burn our dinner...." no telling what you will end up with!
BUT!
Instead, if you tell yourself," I love family mealtime with good, healthy, quality foods, and the girl of my dreams will love to cook, know how to cook well, and be conscious of the things I enjoy and are good for me."...then you are likely to be drawn to a good cook!
Are you wanting a girl that smokes ciggarettes?
maybe not, and that might sound like this: "The girl of my dreams believes in good health, clear lungs, takes good care of herself (and out future children) , and exercises to keep herself in good shape as my partner."
(not many yoga types are puffing away outside the studio!!)
Think up, think clearly! her hair? Her figure? Her heart? The way she cares about your immediate family? Her interests? Her manners? Her language? Common Sense? Does she DO things FOR YOU? Is she kind to your friends? Does she tend to be jealous? (Dealbreaker!)
Does she have a Faith? Her education? Her ability to manage a home? The way she treats YOU?????
There are so many areas to consider that most of us don't think of, you might love redheads with master's degrees...and the one you find may have red hair, a master's degree, and not one ounce of common sense, eats at MacDonald's for Thanksgiving Dinner, and smokes like a chimney and curses like a sailor!
Get the picture!
Paint the ENTIRE picture for your dream girl, and do it with the expectation to find her, to draw her to you, and that you will know her WHEN SHE ARRIVES!
So, go get out your pen and start writing that list!!!
Add to it as you think of things, and enjoy the process!~
It can be a lot of fun!
I found my favorite vintage car using this system!!!!
Best of luck, and keep the faith!
Everyone's favorite Aunt Susie
2006-09-12 10:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It is because you probably are not looking for it from GOD. And that would clearly explain your dilemma. If you don't seek GOD first,You might as well get use to what your getting cause it isn't gonna get any better.You can bank on that.Take Care and May God Bless You.
2006-09-12 10:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking too hard. Sometimes you have got to give it a break and someone wonderful will just come into your life.
2006-09-12 10:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to love yourself before you can really find love from others. The answer that you seek is within you.....
Grasshopper.......
2006-09-12 10:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by whidd2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, u will find.....hell dont be so desperate...thats not how u find the person or else chances are that, u will end up with the wrong person all the time than the right one.....
2006-09-12 10:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋