i love my wife very much,i trust her also ,why do i feel so hurt when she wants to see him.she married me not him,why can,t she spend that time with me?
2006-09-12 03:33:23 · 18 answers · asked by perilli56 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's hard to accept the fact that they shared a life before you and that she still has some feelings for him,, not love feelings,, not feelings of wanting to be with him,, but true concern and compassion towards him.
Be greatful you have a wife who is caring like that,, and not some cold hearted btich. =o)
Talk to her about your concerns and set borerlines on how much time is ok, and if you will be with her or will they be alone ect. Being honest and open will help I think.
2006-09-12 03:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by B V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! If you love your wife. Whatever they had together is over - but they do share some history. If the ex is really crook - and may even croak it - then she may feel the need to resolve some stuff with him so she can get on with her life with you.....without feeling guilty, bitter, remorseful or regretful. By the way - what do you mean by 'do I LET her see him'???? Your marriage is already in trouble if she needs to ask your permission to do things. You should support her need to spend time with him - maybe even accompany her.....for extra support....or talk to her about it. Don't be hurt - this does not mean she is shutting you out or that she loves her ex more than you. It just means she has a very big heart! Be thankful that she is married to YOU!!!!!
2006-09-12 04:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say the man is very sick, I am assuming his illness is fatal. You feel threaten by a dying man? You are being selfish. She was in a relationship at one point or another with this man. Let her tell her friend good bye or make what ever peace that needs to be made. She married you didn't she? That is because she loves you. Now trust her and let her do what she needs to do.
2006-09-12 03:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were married, or even in a committed relationship-they had a friendship at one point-wouldn't you want the oppurtunity to say goodbye-if need be-should you have an ill friend? Maybe she just wants to let a sick friend know there are well wishes out there for him? If you really trusted her-it wouldn't be an issue. You sound a little jealous-or just making immature choices.
2006-09-12 03:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you mean VERY SICK? I think if he were dying I would visit him ONE LAST TIME! Not an everyday kinda thing! They r ex's for a reason. Anything above that would make ANYONE feel hurt and betrayed. Your feelings r 100% normal! Let her know exactly how this makes u feel. Lay it all on the table. If she loves you- she will not continue to do anything to hurt your feelings. If she does- she is only showing u complete disrespect as her husband. Good luck
2006-09-12 03:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some few thngs to consider:
i. Do you have the heart to absorb any after shock or
event? In the first place therfore everything depends on
your very self.
ii. Society. Does your society accept such things as
norms? If your society frowns on or abhors such
things then you will have to reconsider your decision.
iii. Culture. In some societies, it is culturally wrong to
entertain "ex-" relationships
iv. Religion. Any religion that preaches forgiveness and
the love of God will encourage tolerance and
forgiveness.
From the above, you will have to make a combination of points to arrive at a decision.
2006-09-12 04:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Goddy-T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lifeless ringer for each body else suggested, enable IT bypass!!! I have a daughter with my ex, yet he remains her father as i'm her mom. It takes 2 to tango, sorry. he's not basically the sperm donor. Be fortunate he's desiring him in the course of the summer season. you're fortunate you're not from now on one of those women those who's toddler's daddies disappeared and they are stuck elevating their new child on their very own. a minimum of you've someone prepared to take him. Suck it up. It appears like you're mad that your ex is satisfied and getting married and also you do not want your son of their wedding ceremony. Why? in case you've been the only getting married and your ex replaced into declaring "i do not want MY son of their wedding ceremony" you'd be fantastically irritated. besides, you need to have answered to the e-mail at cutting-edge once you've it because it appears like you probably did not care one way or yet another. Now that you discovered out he's getting married, you're mad about it. i know it truly is not straightforward to suck up, yet you had sex with this guy, you had a decision to decline or be on valid birth control, it is the outcome of your determination. improve up, and settle for that your son has a sparkling step mom. Meet her, get at the same time with her, be an human being. you'd be desiring that out of your ex once you get into yet another relationship, I propose you supply him an analogous courtesy!
2016-11-26 19:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by ruffino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs some closure on the past relationship. This is nothing to be jealous about if the man is very sick. And you didn't mention if they have children together or not. But if they do, don't stand in the way of her emotional recovery. If you trust her, encourage her to heal herself. Maybe you both could go visit him. He might be a nice guy.
2006-09-12 03:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm taking it the ex is sick and the wife wants to see him...??? well unless he's dying I wouldnt think its a good idea but if you trust her then its no big deal. but she is an adult and you cant control her so you should be thankful she didnt go behind your back. so have a understanding with her of how often she sees him and then there will be no problems. tell her how you feel
2006-09-12 03:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by Capricorn82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would if it were me. There is a lot of history there and you CAN NOT just turn off caring for someone's well-being just because you are no longer married. This does not mean she has any feelings for him or any less feelings for you. It simply should help you remember that you married her because she is such a caring and nice person and not the "bitter" ex.
2006-09-13 09:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋