why is it that people looks down on single moms????

Answer 1

The question is too general. "What" people look down on single mom's and why are you asking? Are you a single mom and feeling sorry for yourself? I am a single mom of 4. Their dad was seldom around for any of us. We are all better off without him. I raised them myself and am proud of us all. Good luck honey.

Answer 2

I'm guessing that you are a single mother too? Well if you are don't let other people's comments hurt you! As long as you are doing everything to provide for and to keep your child/children safe forget about all those other people. They don't live in your shoes, they don't know what your circumstances are, or what you've been through! I was barely 17 when I had my little boy, I was a Junior in High School. And believe me, I wasn't treated very well either. I would hear people talk behind my back and even many people would make nasty remarks to my face. In fact I even had a career counselor tell me that, "well, you could just be a stay at home mom.", she said this after I told her that I was really interested in going into nursing school after high school! Can you believe that? She just assumed that I would go nowhere! I went home and cried, but I absolutely refused to let her win. I continued to finish high school, started college that fall of graduation, and finished nursing school four years later!! My son is now 10 years old and I have been successful in everything that I have done. I even got married last December to a wonderful man who cares for my son as if he were his own. Please don't let others get you down! Being a single mother or father is not a bad thing! I wish you the best! Keep you head up and keep smiling, knowing you are a great mother!

Answer 3

I was single mom for 3 years and you are right they do look down on the single moms. It is rude, just because there is no man involved at the time does not make them a bad person.

Answer 4

I think this is a fallacy. I think people frown MORE on particular situations that led someone into being a sigle mom. For instance picking an unreliable partner...and continuing the trend so everyone can see patterns haven't changed. I think it's easy for people to misinterpret WHY people are judging them. Generally a single mom has more going on in her life to show where she is at. The single mom is certainly not enough grounds for ostrasizing. Having an ex-con boyfriend, selling drugs and giving a woman a shiner everyother month....well people might turn their nose up at that. But that's at the decisions that lead her to CONTINUE having to be a single mom.
Some single moms are courageous and inspirational. But they are few and far between. For evey SM that is working her *** off to do the right thing, and is in the situation because of life circumstance..i.e. being widowed....there are ten that are leaching off of well-fare.

Answer 5

I too am a single mum and its hard work! You'll usually find that those who look down at us are snobby and rude.. and the fact some people think we're sponging from benefits whilst they're working their butts off... but they seem to forget that mother hood is the most hardest job of all! There is nothing at all wrong with being a single mum and I think people should have more respect for us rather than make us feel and look bad!

Answer 6

I don't think people do. I surely do not look down on single moms.
They have to work twice as hard to bring their kids up, have a career and cope with a lot of issues that are usually shared in a home with 2 parents. No in fact, I admire single moms.

Answer 7

Fifty years ago, if you were a "single mom" you were an "unwed" mother and the girls use to have to go group homes and have their babies, which they adopted out and never told anyone. It was a disgrace. I'm not too sure it is healthy now to be a "single mom" but there are whole lot of them around. Seems like we have our values backwards (strictly my opinion): have babies THEN get married or worse yet, move in together. I suppose it is what you were brought up with. Younger people don't seem to have a problem with it at all. Godloveya.

Answer 8

They have no clue what hard work and determination it takes to raise a child without the aid of the other spouse. I think too it is wrong to just say single moms...it's single dads too. People can be so narrow minded in their thinking from employers to neighbors and even family. They see a situation that is hard and run from it instead of offering help. I acted as a single mother for 5 years and 8 mos. while my husband was incarcerated. Yes...he made a mistake and has paid for it. He was worth waiting on though and the harm was to himself and no one else. Try that on for size. Your a single mom and everyone knows your husband is in prison! We made it through though. You will too. Rely on God. He is there to carry you and don't listen to the fools that want to judge you. Keep your attitude in check and don't let anyone walk all over you.

Answer 9

People are so quick to blame the woman for the relationship breakup. Like these women WANT to raise their kids alone.. A lot of people block out the fact that maybe just maybe its better off for the child for instance A guy and girl are together, have a baby, one day in an argument the guy pulls this 3 month old fragile baby out of his mothers arms. Physically abuses the woman. Would you rather have a woman raise that child seeing his father beating his mother, to turn around and be a woman abuser himself, children learn by example. I give single mothers big big props.
It takes strength to walk away from a relationship when there are children involved.

Answer 10

hey i would say hats-off for single moms.. Normally i think its the oldies who look down on single moms.
its been known that children who grow up with single moms are of extreme behaviour like- either too optimistic or a pessimist.
i guess the young people would consider it cool. they wont have any problems.