before i got pregnant with our daugther, my b/c denied having un affair with any lady. but his friends told me that he was seeing a certain lady but he denied after telling him that i was pregnant then the truth came out.
whenever i tried to call him it would be this lady to answer the phone.
after sometime he claimed they had block up so i move in his house but they still comunicated on phone secretly until i found out i confronted him but he told methey are just friends or she wanted to borrow money from him
this lady shifted to another town but some weekend my husband goes to this town and he refuses to come back home for the night
2006-09-12 03:23:58 · 16 answers · asked by Halicate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Those are signs both directly and indirectly that he is not being faithful to you. I know being married is a wonderful thing, but not at the expense of your health, both mental and physical. I say that you should try and seek out counseling, and if that doesnt work I would leave. There is no reason why he shouldnt be coming home at night, noor talking to a woman he used to mess with for any reason. That is unnacceptable for anyone married to be doing.
Talk to you pastor at the church (if you attend), and seek guidance. But to be honest, it is hard to teach an old dog new tricks. If he is serious about being with you, then he will try everything in his power to keep you- but dont be misled by fale truths.
I am sorry this happened to you- now is the time you stand up and take control of what is left of your relationship.
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2006-09-12 03:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that is not rebuilt overnight especially with him being dishonest for so long. There will always be questions regarding if he is being faithful and honest at some point. It does sound like he is still cheating on you which will make it difficult to rebuild the relationship. It is very hard on rebuilding trust and a relationship when only one person is doing the work on it. Most important, if they were only friends, he would not be hiding their conversations from you. Overnights implies a different meaning than a traditional friendship. I recommend some marital counseling to see if things improve. If not, I really recommend divorcing him because he will not change unless he wants to in the end.
2006-09-12 11:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be very difficult to trust someone after they have lied to you. You were with them because one of the qualities of them was trust, correct? He's not over her if he's going to the town she's in and not coming home! Get rid of him...you deserve so much better! He's still lying to you...You can answer this yourself dear....he's a dawg!
2006-09-12 10:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Goobean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first response is you can't trust him. He has demonstrated that to you. A trust that is repeatedly violated will be very difficult to repair.
If trust is ever to be rebuilt the untrustworthy party has to DEMONSTRATE trustworthiness. Continued lying doesn't do it.
If trust is ever to be rebuilt it will take a long time and will progress by small steps - he must be willing to be open and truthful, and must expect that you have reason not to trust him, and must accept that he is the one that must DEMONSTRATE not just SAY the right things
2006-09-12 10:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust him because he betrayed you and he still might be cheating. You have to put a stop to this. Talk to him and find out whats been going on or go to counseling
with him. If this continues you should divorce him cause things aren't going to change.
2006-09-12 10:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by sweetlittlemama2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not trust him. Think about the daughter, when she is older what will she learn from him, that men are liars and not to be trusted?You must give your daughter and yourself a man who is worthy, not a liar.Good luck I hope you will be happy I know good men are hard to find but you must not let him get away with cheating it is not fair.
2006-09-12 10:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Livia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre married, Id get divorced. Hes gonna keep lying and cheating. He cant be trusted. Borrow money...yea, right, havent heard that one before...
2006-09-12 10:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him! That's how you got lied to in the first place...don't make the same mistake twice. You must be two paces ahead of him at ALL times.
good luck!
2006-09-12 10:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i found out my other half was lying to me he would be straight out the door. trust is the most important thing in a relationship. u evidently do not trust him and it doesn't sound like he neither deserves nor wants that trust.
2006-09-12 10:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by emt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously a lying bast**d and you would do well to get rid of him ... Kick him out of the house and get a divorce, screw him for every penny you can get!
2006-09-12 10:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋