My husband is leaving in another country B/C of work.He only comes after 6 months or 9 months. When he came I am so exiced and love to spend evey moment together but he enjoys to go out and drind with his friends and came home 2.300-3.00 am in the morning. I told him this is not good and if he has to go out he has to do it with me. But he doesn't seem to be intersted. When we go out he rush me to go back home.
For your information I am attractive women, no kids b/c we only married for a short time but we have been together for 6 years.
2006-09-12 03:23:39 · 14 answers · asked by Baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, I really hate to tell you this. It sounds like he is kinda uninterested doesn't it ? Well I have been down that road and back and this what happened to me. I was married for about 7 years and just as quick as you could say (Bob's your Uncle), he started wanting to be with his friends more and more and more. I couldn't go. No quality time with me at all. He wanted me to stay at home. He started coming in late after work. And a few months of doing that, he moved into our step-son's bedroom , as he had moved out already. My birthday came around and nothing happened; no acknowledgment of any kind. Same thing during our ANNIVERSARY...... (nothing happened)!!!! Not even a card! So I decided it was time for me to ask him if something was wrong and he told me he didn't want me anymore. I am not saying that this is happening to you but it sounds like the RED flag is being raised here. I would just simply talk to him and ask a few questions without accusing him of any wrong doing. (guys hate that) And go from there....you can do it without being to close to his space. They need that too, ya know.......Good Luck!!!! Just remember your not ever alone in what your going through. Oh I almost forgot to tell you ; that we have been divorced now for two years and I am still hanging in there, by keeping myself busy....Bye
2006-09-12 03:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short! You deserve to be happy and he has no right treating you like this, sorry to say it but if I were you I'd divorce him - Is there any reason you can not go with him? You have no children and you want to live a little too and I can imagine how hurt you would be when you'd like to spend that time with him, the very little time you get and he would rather be out with the guys, whats the big deal about you not be able to go with him!?!
I don't like that at all! I live and work with my husband and we are rarely apart but when he goes out I go, if I go out he goes, other wise we just don't go at all! It is good of you to let him go with his friends and support that but there would be no way I could be married to a man that lives in another country and when he comes home spends it with his friends, you are not a door mat or there at his request! You are his wife and this makes me mad! I'd talk to him adn get on with my own life b/c it is way too short. I see no reason why you would want to continue to be married I would be sooo loanly, I would find me someone to spend my time with and someone that would treat me well and as equal! Good luck!
2006-09-12 10:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have a martial problem. It sounds like he
could be interested in someone else. The part where he
goes out and drinks with his friends until 2:30 or 3:00
in the morning when he comes home doesn't sound good
either. See if you all can sit down and talk this out. Good
luck.
2006-09-12 10:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by caroline j 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try instead of having to go out with him EVERY time he goes out... level with him and go out with him a couple of times. Men need time to be with friends as well. I'm sorry he's not more interested in being with you 24/7 but he may need a break with friends once in a while. I agree with you that he should be spending time with you but he probably needs time with his friends as well. Remember you are not the only person he has to leave when away on buisness.
2006-09-12 10:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So dump him and find someone else ... He should understand that you want to spend time with him when he's home because you miss him and you love him. If he wants to act like a bachelor and go out with his mates drinking, he doesn't deserve someone who has spent time looking after the house and keeping things looking good while he's away.
Other than that, next time he's away, spend time going out yourself ... get drunk, get laid, let your hair down!
2006-09-12 10:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds fishy. maybe he has someone else in the other country and he wants to tell his friends all about his adventures with her? I say divorce him. but first ask him why he doe snot act like a married man in love? ask him if he has lost interest in you?
2006-09-12 10:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has other things on his mind, like a woman, not you....tell him that you will find yourself a play toy if he does not start treating you right. I had to do that once, so I got me a girlfriend...
2006-09-12 10:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand because i see my husband every day but i still want to spend alot of the time with him but u got to understand he has friends too. my husband lost friends by spending all his time with me
2006-09-12 10:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by vicki d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems he does not want to spend time with you. you need to sit down with them and talk to him. or he may have someone on the side
2006-09-12 10:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either he's getting it somewhere else or the bottle is more important to him than you
either is bad, but the worst part seems to be that he doesn't care
2006-09-12 10:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋