I have a wonderful job and house near the ocean here in LA, and I spend 10 days a month with my daughter. Her mom wants me to move, but we just don't get along. I've been stuck, scared to make the move, for almost a year, and my daughter is growing up fast. I'm single and I'm not meeting anyone in LA since I'm gone almost half the time. I'm kind of scared to get involved with another woman too, after being with my ex, who is pretty controlling. Help! I still have a dream of having a wife and family that works, and am lonely living this split life. But so very happy when I'm with my daughter. Her mom will not consider moving bac here, and I have no legal rights to get them here, as we were never married. People say follow your heart, but that hasn't worked out so well in the past. Your comments will be much appreciated. I'm so ambivalent it is painful.
2006-09-12 03:14:34 · 9 answers · asked by drdave216 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it is a good idea to move because it sounds like you miss your daughter when she is not with you.
In a matter of two years, your daughter will be attending kindergarten which will significantly decrease your parenting time with her because your time will be limited to weekends, school holidays, and summer vacation. If you lived closer to your daughter, this would not be the case.
In addition, your daughter will miss the frequent parenting time when she enters elementary school. Sure, there are telephone calls, cards, and pictures, but it does not fully replace her spending time with you in person.
I know that you mentioned that your ex is controlling, but you do not have to live next door to her if you move. You can live in an adjoining neighborhood or community near her residence It could be a couple of blocks to a quarter mile or more The distance depends on your comfort zone.
2006-09-12 04:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 02:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can move...MOVE. Your daughter should always be #1 in your life. You don't have to be your ex's best friend or live with her, but you need to be in your daughter's life!!! Don't worry about finding another woman....when you are ready it will happen. Children grow up so fast and Dad's are a very important part of that growing. You need to be there...so be there.
2006-09-12 03:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a property management company to take care of the place and screen tenants to rent your place. Go with a month 2 month rental agreement so if things dont work out then you wont have any regrets. Give it a year and see what happens so you dont end up shooting yourself in the foot.
2006-09-12 03:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by teddybar67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to Phoenix for the sake of your doughter. I moved from Phoenix to Dallas to be close to my family, you should do the same. You're likely to find someone in Phoenix as well and if you don't at least you'll have your daughter.
2006-09-12 03:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Karina T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got faith for you, it rather is a crappy subject. What the heck are they spending the money sent to them on if it rather is not going in the direction of employ? They use each individual achieveable and it can not be any distinctive residing on your place. They do want help from social centers, it rather is rather no longer as much as you and your husband to help them. Your husband taking them to social centers continues to be helping - in a manner that may not unfavorable on your sanity or marriage. Lay all of it out on your husband, tell him the style you sense approximately it. Your concerns are very valid.
2016-11-07 04:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting the daughter for the entire summer and holiday (xmas break) that should help---more than the 10 days
2006-09-12 03:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, move to her and see her as often as possible or you will be replaced. Get packing.
2006-09-12 03:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Brain_scurvey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah!
2006-09-12 03:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by kiran123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋