Constantly complaining, nagging, moody, and never has anything nice to say about anyone.
2006-09-12 02:53:38 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yea, he needs an attitude adjustment. Sometimes something drastic needs to occur to someone to realize how lucky they are to be alive. He basically needs to be more grateful for the things he has.
This is not easy to teach because in most cases he was raised with a parent that was this way and he has been this way himself up til now, so you are talking about totally changing who he is.
I would try to set up drastic events like sky diving (or something a little less crazy). Maybe visiting a center for homeless or cancer patients so that he sees how unfortunate some others are compared to him and it may effect him. My point is that you need to somehow show him that he should have a more positive outlook on life because first of all many others are suffering much more than he is and second of all it is such a freeing and liberating feeling to finally drop all the negativity.
2006-09-12 03:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Who hasn't? If you want help with this I have advice. If it's someone you love, find teasing you can get away with. This sounds stupid, but when my mom is being like that, I'll pretend she's like a grumpy dog and pat her head and mock her. It sounds like it won't work but it always makes her smile and laugh. Now, I wouldn't try anything like that with a stranger. Just remember, that sometimes everyone is like that, don't discount someone just because of it. Make sure they're never positive before giving anyone up.
2006-09-12 03:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah and it is so draining. I suggest you start to distance yourself from this person and when they do start talking negative, you don't let them just drag on....you say "well you have to always try to get the positive from the negative". "The glass is always half full not half empty" etc...this way you are not allowing them to spew negativity. If all else fails tell this person that you are a positive person and it is too much for you to handle all the negativity and they should get a better grip. Good luck ;-)
2006-09-12 03:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Miss J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many times. And the WORST part of it is when you realize they have succeeded in killing your great mood and your intentions to be positive. That sux. However, it's not the hardest thing to avoid these people. I actually have a harder time of avoiding those I am related to who are always so serious and worried. All they do is bring up what you need to be worried about. Such a downer! It's especially hard to see my mother in law do it to my husband who I know tries so hard to overcome the negativity he grew up with!!!
2006-09-12 02:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop associating with that person. They are like a cancer and can eat away at your positive attitude about life. Even if they are related to you, do not have anything to do with them. If they ask you why you seem so distant, tell them gently. Do not be a jerk and go off on them. You just might get them to see the light. Good Luck!
2006-09-12 02:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and needless to say they are no longer apart of my life ... I had to part ways from the friendship.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-12 02:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you mean the NEGATIVE NANCY, DEBBIE DOWNER, PAUL PESSIMIST, Pete Poop the Party, ya, I have had the pleasure of their tentacles wrapped around my head sucking the life force from my body! I just want to plant a big old wet kiss on them an tell them to cheer the f u c k up!
2006-09-12 03:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! And unless you are one of those overly joyous types, these people need to be avoided like the plague. Don't worry about them. They'll undoubtedly find someone else to suck the life out of.
2006-09-12 02:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in retail, I am constantly surrounded by poeple who have nothing better to do with their small lives then complain. I try to stay upbeat, but it's a real challenge.
2006-09-12 02:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and it can be a total let down and I had separate myself from that because I know what I want to accomplish in life.
2006-09-12 02:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Disha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋