she has just realised she is actually bi.... and im cool with it but she thinks im freaked out...... I mean it doesnt matter what your sexual preferance is. But she thinks I will judge her. The main problem is that she had a dream about kissing me.... and thats what made her realise.... How can i help her?
2006-09-12 02:49:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
the main thing you can do is be there for her, talk to her about it make her see that you are not judging her or that she doesn't have to be scared to talk to you about being Bisexual. It is good that she realised this and as long as she knows you are not that way but that you are still going to be her friend that is all you can do.
I have a few gay friends and all you have to do is be normal there is nothing different about her now, just make sure she knows that is how you feel and things won't change between you two.
wolfy1 not everyone believes in the lord and there is nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual, they are just people like everyone else.
2006-09-12 02:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a dream that I kissed Harry Potter once and If I'd taken it seriously, I would have lost all my money on Therapy...SERIOUSLY....IT WAS JUST A DREAM..Until she actually has the sexual experience she wont know really. I mean it's not like she actually kissed you is it?
However, let's assume that she is bi, you can help her by being very gentle with her,supportive and ask her if she'd like to try kissing you without any judgements to see how she really feels.
That may be an option only if you are willing aswell. afcourse.
I have other ideas but I 'm running out of room here.
I wish you all the best..Love Granny
2006-09-12 10:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if that was the first time she felt attracted to the same gender? She may not remember the first time she became attracted to the same gender. Then if you are not interested in a lesbian relationship at all, tell her you are not attracted to the same gender. It could be because you have already formed attractions to the opposite gender. Tell her you may be a minority it seems, but You was never influenced by the same gender at any point were you decided to say it was the plan You wanted for you. Tell her she could change if she wanted, and follow the plan you only accept, man and woman and that would be ok too. Tell her you heard it was easier to change if you start closer to the time that a person had been influenced and also ask for help from Jesus Christ would not hurt her. She may not change over night but if both of you started a bible studie together it may even help her more or faster. Just do not agree yourself to do anything you would not want in your plan of your life, because once you open that door it may cause you to stumble again, and again and never even understand why.
2006-09-12 18:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her. Keep insisting that you are okay with it. Support her and encourage her. It's with consistent love and support that someone can finally become comfortable with how they feel. I think everyone that comes out or is questioning feels like the world is in judgment on them when most of the times it's not even close to the case. Whatever you do, don't treat her any differently and eventually it will click that you are okay with her as she is.
2006-09-12 10:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Switch Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her dream doesn't make her bi - Otherwise I'd be able to fly out my window at night...
If she's freaking out and you're not then just continue not to freak out - she'll get the picture when she gets over whatever it is that's bothering her.
2006-09-12 10:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To turly help your friend have her reead 1Corinthians 6; 9-19. Also let herknow a dream is just a dream it does notmean that she is bi. I will pray for you both. For the Lord is love and would that all would come to Him so that none would be lost.
2006-09-12 09:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If i doesnt bother you, then dont worry. Just keep acting like you do and dont change towards her. She is finding herself and getting to know who she really is, give her time.
2006-09-12 11:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by xoxo_ 6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest with her and tell her that the dream didn't bother you. She has a problem with it more than you do. She still is in the "accepting herself mode."
2006-09-12 10:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by justincausejustintime 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if your bi-or lesbian just let her kiss you and find out if you both like it.but if you need someone to talk to?or just have fun with
or have fun talking to someone?then just talk to me?i'll be your friend.
cinderellamirage
2006-09-12 19:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to give it a try by kissing her,too.
2006-09-12 10:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by javo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋