its been 2 days now since he asked me to leave i have not really got no where to go how do i convince him to let me stay at work it out im scared of him cuz of what he ,may say next..........
2006-09-12 02:41:08 · 13 answers · asked by skinnyminniekitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he as asked me to move out yesterday but has not actually thrown me out he looks dead set on chucking me out ive wrote him a letter no difference please good advice?
2006-09-12 02:46:19 · update #1
read my previous questions thanks
2006-09-12 02:48:54 · update #2
said he wants me to go thats he dont trust me i know you lot are trying to help me but i just dont wanna go i love being here so much xxxxxxxxxxx
2006-09-12 02:51:55 · update #3
its his dads house
2006-09-13 02:47:44 · update #4
First of all.. is ur name on the place.. if so u dont have to go anywhere, if not he still has to legally evict u from ur place of residency.. so u can stay untill he legally serves u with legal eviction papers and then u still have 30 days after that.
I know u said ur afraid of what he'll say, but are u afraid of him physically????? if u are, then u need to get away from him, go to a local church and they will help u.. but if ur only afraid of him "emotionally" then u have every right to stay there till he legally evicts u, if he gave u permission to live with him, he cant KICK U OUT.. and any police officer will tell u and him that..
Ok im guessing from ur comments that he's not abusive towards u atleast in a physical way, u are just in love with him and he's not in love with u anymore.. U dont have to leave ur home and thats ur home, like i told u.. not with out legal notification.. 2nd of all.. u actting so needy and like a obsessed psycho isnt going to get him to want u back, so u need to muster up some courage to atleast act like an adult, and that u dont give a crap what he has to say .. or do, even if ur dying inside, he's loving watching u fall on ur face and ur empowering his ego.. STOP.. ur only pushing him further away.. u need to go into "robot" mode.. and act as if ur fine with the decision but let him know that untill u find another place to live that ur staying where u are.. the more confident u act, the more u ignore his tantrums, the more he's going to wonder why the sudden change.. its the only chance u have.. cause i promise u actting like a possesive blubbering twit is only going to push him further away from u.. so stop crying stop actting like u care.. cry only when he's not around and pick urself up brush urself off.. and be the confident , self sufficient woman he fell in love with to begin with .. thats the only shot u have at getting him back...
2006-09-12 02:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are unlawful eviction laws. Contact housing authority maybe they can tell you what it is for your state or at least direct you to someone who can answer the question. Start making arrangements to leave. Any many that knows your situation and does this doesn't care about you and will soon begin to inflict his disdain upon you. Contact a women's shelter or a family friend or someone who is willing to take you in and you must get on your own feet at some point. If you did something to violate the trust then you must take measures to try and leave.
2006-09-12 10:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desperation is very unflattering to you. Get some self respect and walk out that door. Save your tears for when you're on the other side of it. Don't say anything else to him Respect his decision; he has a right to it. Important: If he would have you right now, he's not worth having. Sign up for school. Work full-time. Get some new, good friends. The way to capture the man of your dreams is to not look for him, nor wait on him. *You* want to do the picking from now on. No man defines you.
P.S. If you're not respecting his decision, you're being selfish. That is not "love." That is "using."
2006-09-12 09:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by georgia b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid of him and he asked you to go, but you stay. You are being very foolish.
Look in your Yellow Pages for a woman's shelter. Call churches. Call Social Services. Call any friends or relatives. Call until you find someone to take you out of the situation and then DON'T GO BACK!
You have value as a human being and you are worthy of being loved. Get your life on the right track and the rest will fall into place.
Now please, get going and good luck!
2006-09-12 09:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not respect you if you stay. He will think you are needy. Try to find a relative or someone you are close to, to take you in so you can get on your feet until you can be able to move out on your own. Why would you want someone that is not willing to work things out and is wanting you out? You can do it. I had the same thing happen to me and I was scared. I did not have a job,did not drive,did not know how to support myself. I had to get on welfare for awhile to help me out. I had to find a place to live and lived on my own for three years. Not only did I learn how to support myself , I now have a good job and do not rely on welfare anymore. I leaned how to drive. I remarried and found a husband that is faithful and who loves me. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!
2006-09-12 09:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that.
You are there by some mutual agreement, spoken or written, no matter what your situation is. He has no right to have things easy on him while you have things hard on you. You are at the very least, entitled to some assistance.
Maybe he is the one that needs to go.
It is hard to imagine why you would want to work things out with some one who would show such total disregard.
2006-09-12 10:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the house belongs to both of you, (if it is the marital home it does) then let a judge tell him. He has no right to just throw you out. Arrangements need to be made & that's how most court systems look at it.
2006-09-12 09:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find a shelter or anything until you can get on your own two feet.Get a job save money and do what you need to do. Dont depend on a man for anything. and if you are afraid of him,why would you want to stay with him anyways. Get some selfesteem!!! You can make it on your own.
2006-09-12 09:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more details needed. Sounds like a tough situation. Seek counseling, tell him you want to go to counseling and then after a few sessions you want him to go as well. Need more details though.
2006-09-12 09:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by finished 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a note.
If you are still there and he didn't say anything more about it,seems to me he didn't really mean what he said, probley just said out of anger.
2006-09-12 09:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋