I have a friend who i've known for 20 years. We are both married now and bumped into each other a year ago. We were always great friends but have started a relationship. I like him and have and am developing feelings for him. we have been seeing each other once a month and have great sex!
2006-09-12 02:29:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's great that you met this friend, if you know that he is the one, and that he will make u happy then leave your husband, have him leave his wife and start a life together, but u must do it now before people get hurt.
2006-09-12 02:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by PR 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why you would ask strangers if this is "good"; unless you know how dishonorable it is. In light of the fact that the two of you have known each other for 20 years and didn't get together earlier, you must already know that there are good reasons that you shouldn't be with him, even outside of marriage.
Adultery is easy. Anyone can have an affair. Anyone can have "great sex" with someone they're not sharing daily life with! Adultery is a big COP-OUT, because you take the best part of someone (a fantasy) and leave the rest. What you are sharing with him is fake.
If you want to play pretend, I vote you nix the spouses. They deserve what they signed up for, and what you promised to give. You are a fraud. You don't deserve to have someone waiting for you until you come home to take a shower. Gross!
2006-09-12 02:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by georgia b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sure you already know the answer to this one but if you want to hear it just for the record then okay here goes. This is wrong, wrong, wrong and wronger. If he is married and you are married it's not a good thing. If anything the least the two of you could do is get out of your marriages before pouncing on each other. Don't you both think you owe it to the other people involved to cut them lose before the two of you get all head over hills. At least be considerate enough to give them their pink slips.
2006-09-12 02:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you already know this is wrong. There is no need for us to confirm it for you or slam you for your lack of morals. Do your husband a favor and divorce him. He didn't sign up for this and I'm not sure he'd approve. Then keep on the look out for karma....what goes around is definately going to come around when you are least expecting it.
2006-09-12 02:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwww how sweet.. after 20 years u went from friends to turning each other into low life scum sucking whores that are such cowards that they cant be true to the people they took vows to and the families they've begun and now because they have no sense of morals and values their families are going to be destroyed because neither one of u can keep ur pants on.. wow u must really be proud of yourself.. ur not only going to destroy people in ur own family ur going to destroy his family too.. ur both a pair arent u.. to shallow and coward to atleast own up to the spineless , gutless, insensitive , losers that u are to actually divorce someone before screwing someone elses husband and for him someone elses wife... i pitty ur foolish spouses for ever believing that either one of u were something special enough to devote their lives to.. their souls that will be crushed forever because of your selfish needs, and the lies u've made their lives into because everything they believe in, and love, is fake.. congrats, what a P.O.S you are.. i hope ur proud of yourself and i hope if either of u have kids, that when they find out what losers u are, that u have to be the one to look them in the eyes every time they cry because their hearts and familes are destroyed cause ur both idiots.. and i hope it feels like daggers through ur soul with every tear they have..
2006-09-12 02:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tone down this relationship for the sake of both of you... I know it's hard but you might try just being friends with him and come by and have the great sex with me.... ;)
2006-09-12 02:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the other person that is adultry and its very disrespectful to your spouses and very selfish of you two. if you want to be togeather then you need to divorce the person your married to and be with your lover.
Aside from abusing your spouse that is the worst you could ever do to them. You two are very selfish and i hope you get caught.
2006-09-12 02:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by bree30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you have feelings for this man, but you can't act on them because of your marriages. This will only lead to destruction in your life. Both of you have previous obligations you must honor.
2006-09-12 02:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
curious ... is this your first time cheating? what makes you think its his? what could possibly be good about it? once it comes out, and it will, will one of you be out in the cold? if you both divorce, what makes you think he will be faithful to you? who does he sleep with the other three weekends?
2006-09-12 02:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa that sounds interesting. I mean you know it is not good. The sex is just good. If you love your husband you will stop. I
2006-09-12 02:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mila 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋