Its sad we've been real close for three years now.It just isn't working for me as well as him,I guess.I'm not patten myself on the back,but,I give of my heart much more than he does or did,he has some health issues,but thats not why I'm leaving,He wants me to work and me too,but his son pays me to not work so I can be available to drive him to and from work,second dwi so he has no lisence,my love and I BOTH promised his mother that we would help and they don't want me to work.Before this came up with his son(dwi) I didn't work because my love got hurt bad nearly died.He was off of work for almost a year.I took care of him,never left his side,literally wiped his *** and gladly,because I nearly lost him.Brain injury,broken jaw,stroke,numbness everywhere.Before that,I was off from my job due to a knee injury.When I got my release to go back to work,less than a week later,I had a gall bldr attack and was in hospital for 10 days.We have been thru alot together and today i leave.ouch,not now
2006-09-12 01:48:20 · 11 answers · asked by sandy v 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Too long, too boring and what is your question??
2006-09-12 01:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sandy I have to ask you...you are still calling ur mate ur love. So, what I think is it really isn't over between you 2. I think you have to ask urself is this what you really want? Will you regret it later? Sometimes it takes accidents and things for people to realize that they realize what they have together. Does ur mate harm you in any way? Physically or emotionally? I feel like I always give too. Finally, I realized I have to tell my husband what I want. What I need from him. I think communication is the key. Go talk to a counselor with or without ur mate. You will feel so much better about the choice you make when having another persons thoughts. Good Luck!
2006-09-12 08:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can find some job that only takes about 3 hrs a day or where you can work from home, just that he doesn't want you to give up what you really want for him especially work. he is ill yes but he feels like a handicapped or a child when you do all that stuff for him he feels like he has no purpose. so the only way to feel like a real man who can take care of himself is the get you to go to work. that's how he feels. my grandfather wanted the same for my mother because she left her work to take care of him and my aunts would pay her but he didn't want that. and that's what he told her. so she got a job where she only work half day. and it wasn't too strenuous for her manage. May be you need to give him some time each day by himself. but you should ask him the reason he wants you to work . don't leave him work it out please don't give up, it may be hard but trust life is not easy either and you manage that so stay ok
2006-09-12 08:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, never say never. Sounds like you are exhausted and in need of a rest. Can you just get away for a while (undetermined period of time) You need some time for YOU. You need some rest. With your own health issues, that will emotionally exhaust you. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-09-12 09:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fatigue can ruin a good relationship ... being a caretaker is very wearing ... i suggest you take a short weekend vacation and treat yourself to a spa weekend to rejuvenate before you decide to leave for good ... just leaving you may find you regret it and are too embarrassed to come back
2006-09-12 08:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to do what you feel in your "heart" to do. if you feel that ur not getting anything out of this, then it's time to go. shounds like to me that you are staying becuz u feel sorry for them. and if that is the case, you will never be happy. God Bless you, u deserve to be happy....it does sound like it is time to say goodbye.
2006-09-12 08:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adios
2006-09-12 08:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
where are you going?
2006-09-12 08:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by get_unlost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is that a question ?!!
2006-09-12 09:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by Persian Male 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh....!?
2006-09-12 08:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋