2006-09-12 01:39:24 · 23 answers · asked by R I Y A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cyber romance is surely alluring, mystical, bewitching and seductive. You are right to be alarmed.
Tell him vividly, in as many emotional terms as you can muster, what it is that you are feeling about his obsession with the chat room and with this woman in particular. Dig deep inside to try to express your pain, your fear, your anxiety. But don't forget to emphasize your love for him and how you really want to make this marriage work.Reassure him that you will not judge his feelings, for feelings are neither right nor wrong. All you want is for the two of you to renew that decision to love you .
2006-09-12 01:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So you are a Chat Room Widow! If you can't beat them, join them. Don't tell him but go into the chat rooms and engage him in chat. Get him more and more interested - 'groom' him - and then arrange a meeting!
But, seriously, there is something wrong in your relationship which you need to address. It will be little use confronting him or banning him, even. Controlling behaviour may be one of the things which has turned him away from you. Also, excessive affection can also be seen as controlling - I know, I am in that situation. It is hard to deal with but you need to be understanding about his needs to escape, perhaps?
2006-09-12 08:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its when the women does not pay attention or has other priorities other than nagging at him all the time. THe best thing is to try to talk to him and keep him busy so that he has less time on the net but u have to be careful not to hurt him and take his mind off the chat rooms/net with love and affection. Nagging and frustration will get u nowhere and u may end up loosing him.
2006-09-12 22:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by sweeeeeeeeet sood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really cannot understand why some people would like those chat rooms myself. The people are usually crude and do not care at all what the subject is about. They usually just talk about sex and then they will call others gay or start talking about their bodily fluids it grosses me out. He could like the dirty talk and is addicted to it. You need to have a talk with him and tell him that this is hurting you and you would like to have a mature conversation with him instead of him being in the chat rooms giving all of his attention to them.
2006-09-12 08:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some reason the both of you are not connecting .. find away to talk to him, maybe suggest counseling. Either way you really need to talk to him about how its making you feel.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-12 08:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him to stop using chat and spend more time with you and your new child. Tell him that it will only make you grow apart. Spend time with him, watch what he wants to watch on TV or try and find something mutual to watch, but ask him to remove chat from computer that it will only lead to a failed marriage and affairs.
2006-09-12 09:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by finished 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a place for questions. Since you haven't asked one, I can only assume that your husband is talking to people SMARTER THAN YOU! Be glad that at least one person in the relationship knows the meaning of comprehension.
2006-09-12 08:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to address the issue head on and see why a cyber buddy is more interesting that you are right there.
he is looking for something that he's not finding in the relationship
2006-09-12 08:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is addictive to some people. I mean he probably likes the kind of things that they talk about.
2006-09-12 09:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a chat room, fake it....tell him bout it n see how he reacts... he will definately be jealous...then come to an agreement to both stop...pretend to be in a chat room especially when he is around...
or
Check what name he uses in chatrooms, then chat with him...see what interests him...ask him bout his wife, if u get a negative response about his wife, then u have a problem...if its a positive one, atleast u are safe.
But then, he still has to stop!
2006-09-12 08:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋