2006-09-12 01:33:03 · 26 answers · asked by R I Y A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to each other. Since you’re the one who is aware of the problem then I would recommend that you initiate a discussion with your husband about your sexual concerns. If you’re afraid to, then the problem that you just mentioned is not confined to the bedroom. Sex is communication and more often than not good sexual communication is reflective of good overall communication between partners. If you’re afraid to create conflict, than you will most likely shy away from one another in all areas of your life.
If your husband responds positively to discussing your sexual relationship, then you’re on your way to solving your problems. Not knowing your sexual history, I can’t comment on your experience and knowledge about sexuality. One thing you should know is that very few couples intuitively know how to pleasure each other. To create a mutually satisfying and loving sexual relationship takes awareness and knowledge. The two of you need to spend time reading about sexual techniques. By doing so, you can learn the "what and how" of sexual pleasure. If you go to our Bookstore, you can find a number of excellent books on sexuality.
Like with the above couple, I would recommend that you spend time exploring each other’s bodies. Ask each other what it is that is sexual stimulating. Demonstrate by taking your partner’s hand and placing it on the exact pleasure spot. This is the best way to improve your sexual connection.
2006-09-12 01:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being able to connect in bed has a wire somewhere else. Sex is essentially in the mind, and in your case maybe the minds havent connected yet. Both of you really need to feel desire for each other as such, to be able to connect in bed. There are arguements for successful sex lives without the two minds getting together, but then thats lust and not love. So if you are talking of sex within marriage, it has to set right the atmosphere at home, away from the bed, which would in turn, set up the atmosphere for a great married life. So... look inward, the answers are right there at your home.
2006-09-12 09:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by ramesh ks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The basic problem what I forsee is that there is a communication gap between the two. You may not be sharing the same compatibility and must be all the time being more of a nagging wife than someone he likes to share his mind with. He maybe a person who would not like to talk to you on such issues as he maybe feeling that u don't care for him thus his attitude towards ur desires and fulfillment of sexual arousals. Try to be understanding and co-operate with him. He is trying to take his mind off you by indulging in other activities other than thinking about having sex...its first the mental peace of mind and then the pleasure of having sex.
2006-09-12 22:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by sweeeeeeeeet sood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start the experience before you hit the bed.
You might be one of the lucky girls and you could have a romantic on your hands..... get the excitment going before you get to the bedroom or better yet --- forget the bedroom and just let it happen where ever (within reason).
There's lots to do outside the bedroom. Hop into the shower with him, slide under the dinner table (not at a restaurant); cuddle up on the sofa beside him and nibble his neck, ears or whatever.
2006-09-12 08:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask him? Ask him what his needs or desires are and at the same time, express yours as well. In addition, try to get a book about Kama Sutra, look @ the book togehter and try different positions, add toys into the bedroom, watch dvds, role play with one another, check out the Liberator products and have fun with it. You will find that connection but you have to let your guard down
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-12 08:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is when communication comes into play. Instead of jumping right into sex try a little foreplay and teasing. See what gets him going. Ask him some questions. That's the only way you will know. Don't try to play the guessing game. 9 times out of 10 you will lose that way.
2006-09-12 08:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by elementsoflife06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you connected before as in all your massive over load of questions you said you have a new baby, you are likly still fat, you dont clean the house as youre on the net far too much for someone with a new born and a home to maintain, and you nag too much, hes got a new gal or soon will have!
2006-09-12 08:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-09-12 08:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by Petar K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just goto bed with ur child not with ur husband.Continue this for a month than u will get call from ur husband-that i can assure u.
2006-09-12 11:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by SUBHA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a foolish question is these dear, he is Ur husband not a owner nor a servant he is Ur life partner still u live, so u can ask r force him what do u want or what he wants from you OK honey
2006-09-12 19:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by mohd w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋