I met this woman this summer that completely blew my mind. I've never been with a women before and she's into women completely .
I've been married for 3 years, and with my husband for 6 years, and have two children with him.
This Girl loves my kids so much that my youngest child calls her mommy. My husband got to know her too and they became bestfriends and he loves her like a little sister and would do anything for her.
We spent so much time together this summer that all I can do is think of her. I dream about her, think about her, fantasise about her. She left town 3 days ago, and Im so sad and confused.
Has anyone been through this. I dont know what to do. She's not in town anymore, but she calls me everyday, or IM me dirty notes.
I dont want to hurt my husband, but Im so confused.. Will this feeling go away?
2006-09-12 01:22:02 · 12 answers · asked by Val Drew 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
wow,wut a dilema?? well first of all think of all the things u have n life right think of all the preciouse things in ur life and all the blessings in your life, then think if these feelings are so strong and u caint stop thiniking about her then is it really worth losing everything u have already ?? sometimes temptation looks good but jus stop and think about wut u have :)
2006-09-12 02:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband isn't precisely "rollin in it" and he wasn't till now we began relationship or have been given married- we the two are delicate financially. I have not have been given any ALTERIOR reason, no plans to alter him, and my self esteem isn't so low the place i could settle for any guy whom I discovered. some people get married with the aid of fact they want the affection, committment and legality that incorporates being married. If I had by no skill gotten married, i could nevertheless be stable. My husband does not and by no skill had financially supported me extra appropriate than i will help myself. i comprehend a thank you to make myself c u m, and that i propose c u m stressful. i will stand on my own mentally and financialy while if i wanted babies, i ought to undertake. My husband can say an identical element and can have carried out so till now he met me. So, there replaced into by no skill a time while he or I "mandatory" to be married. We have been given married with the aid of fact we'd have enjoyed to. in actuality, he'd locate you ridiculous for even suggesting that any one mandatory some thing from somebody else for the excuses you have named.
2016-11-07 04:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this kind of stuff is hard to deal with. Just follow your heart and try to do whatever is best for your children. And just for refference, doing something with a woman while you're married to a man is just as bad as doing something with another man. It's still cheating. A lot of people think it's okay to do someting with a member of the same sex, and it's not cheating, but when you are expressing feelings with somebody other than your spouse, it's the same concept.
2006-09-12 01:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mickie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. i have never been with a woman but am dieing for the experience. i know its hard to keep the thoughts out of your mind. i guess all you can really do is tell your husband that your curious and see what he says. but don't tell him right away who you have a crush on. wait until your sure that he's OK with it. most men will not consider that as cheating. if you need anything just contact me. good luck!
2006-09-12 03:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by DoTi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This happened to a cousin of mine who has a son with her ex-husband. She divorced the hubby and her female lover moved in. They recently purchased a house together in the Baltimore suburbs.
I do not condone what she did and I love my cousin deeply, but I'm upset that she remains in the closet.
If you love your husband and your children, please commit to your marriage and find out what would attract you to another woman vs. your husband and children. If you choose to follow in my cousin's footsteps, just remember that I'm not the one judging you at the end.
2006-09-12 03:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to let your husban know how you are feeling... and no the feeling wont go away.... if you dont try sex with this women u will always think about it... is everything ok at home with your husband?? Because if not, you could just be misplacing your feelings because of your problems with your husband
2006-09-12 02:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by sexylilles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
feelings r feelings babe...u do not have to act on it! give it some time and this feelings will fade, espescially if u have always been straight. Think of your husband and ur kidz,and ur vow to god to honor and luv them. stop thinking of yourself and ur needs and wants for this time while ur children are still young. If possible go for counseling. Do everything possible to avoid this temptation, go to this website if ur truly desperate and if ur a christian."www.exodus.com" I tried this website and help me understand bout same-sex attractions or to overcome same-sex attractions. Good luck! remember ur actions always affects others.
2006-09-12 08:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by pale_jacinta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say talk to a professional therapist. The heart wants what the heart wants but I'd think seriously about whether or not your feelings are a "fling" or something more serious.
2006-09-12 01:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No darling it wont- is she discrete? If yes- you should givr yourself the opportunity to experience her- you will have a wonderful memory.
2006-09-12 03:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a 3some with you and hubby. He'll be sure to enoy as will you , everyone is happy lol
2006-09-12 01:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by ~The Bytch 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋