My wife has never had an orgasim with me during sex. She has been using toys to help her in private. She doesn't like oral sex and she literally pushed me away when I tried to be involved with her during her self stimulation. I am very frustrated because I am feeling neglected. And she won't communicate with me honestly. Am I being selfish? Women.....help me out here.
2006-09-12 01:16:11 · 10 answers · asked by maf20057 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course you are'nt being selfish! I don't blame you for feeling neglected.Most men would be! She won't orgasm with you but she'll do it with a dildo! That makes no sense!! You have every right to be angry. She should at least have the decency to tell you honestly what is going on; but she won't even do that? In my opinion, she has to be keeping a secret! You have got to find out what is going on to solve your problem. I did somthing similar to my ex; but i did'nt love him anymore!! Maybe....
2006-09-12 02:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being selfish at all, if anything I think your wife has a problem with intimacy, or sex in general. She should want to experience these things with you or let you use her toys for her, make it fun for both of you, that way at least you helped her to reach orgasm. Some women only orgasm through oral so it is only her own doing that she wont let you bring her to one. She obviously has some underlying issues sexually. But by no means are you being selfish.
2006-09-12 08:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your being selfish. For most couples its just the opposite, the wife wants the hubby to participate more but he's already rolled over and fast asleep. Alot of women have a hard time reaching orgasm during sex and once they find something that works we are reluctant to give it up. I would just try to talk to her(anywhere BUT the bedroom) about it and tell her what your feeling, that you want to help her and you need her to tell you what she needs. Good Luck!!
2006-09-12 08:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A woman can be multi-orgasmic, so using 'toys' wouldn't stop her from having an orgasm during sex with you, even if she's spent all day with the plastic. Maybe it's your technique that needs working on? Could it be she finds you a bit repulsive? Have you tried a more romantic approach? Just a thought.
2006-09-12 08:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you're not selfish. Why would you think so?? You have attempted initiating anyway. Women need a security and comfort zone before they allow their partners to touch them or make love to them. Also they tend to associate emotion with sex. So instead of concentrating on sex alone, i suggest you try to "stimulate" her emotionally. Pamper her, compliment her and make her feel beautiful and loved by you, take her out for dates, be romantic, get to know her again,fall in love with her again. Be successful in this and the sex will be better than ever before! :)
Good luck!
2006-09-12 08:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You aren't being selfish. I think it is the toy spoiled her. Maybe your wife should go to a therapist. You should talk to your wife about this because this sort of thing can jeopardize relationship or marriage.
2006-09-12 08:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Arianne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want her around when you are masterbating? If it makes you feel better i didn't orgasm until i was in my mid 30's...I always enjoyed sex prior to that though...since then sex is wild, & i know what to do to bring myselt to orgasm during sex.
I dont think your being selfish, sounds like you are all for her....goodluck with it....and relax a little
2006-09-12 08:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by debbie l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs to see a therapist, there is nothing wrong with you wanting to help.
2006-09-12 08:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Linda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a lot of foreplay and use the toys on her before you have intercourse.
2006-09-12 08:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your wife is a biachhhhhhhhh dumb her
2006-09-12 08:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋