This morning there was not a lot of milk left. When I was making my cereal my spouse started calling me selfish and piggish for using 2 cups of milk for my coffee and cereal. There was more than enough left for them to have their breakfast as well.
This is basically the same amount of milk I consume every morning, so it wasn't like I was drinking more than usual.
I am diabetic so I have to measure out my portions so I can properly medicate myself... so I am sure of the measurements.
After trying to point out there would be more than enough for both of us repeatedly I got irritated because they wouldn't just let it go or at least make their own breakfast to see if there would be enough milk or not. Instead they kept accusing me of being selfish. Then they accused me of wasting milk because I rinsed out the measuring cup after emptying the contents into my cereal bowl and coffee.
This led to a fight right before I left for work.
Am I in the wrong for getting angry over this?
2006-09-12 00:57:22 · 23 answers · asked by SomeGuy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A few more details:
We have a son, but he's mine only by marriage. He already had gotten his breakfast.
I used gender nuetral pronouns because I didn't want biased responses based upon the sex of who said what in the argument. I was more concerned about getting a good, balanced response based upon what happened... is all.
2006-09-12 01:23:37 · update #1
Don't cry over spilt milk, but plan to buy more in the future.
2006-09-12 01:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by pixiechick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see both sides, but if there was enough milk to go around then they shouldn't be calling you selfish. It sounds like they are trying to pick fights.
Do they understand that rinsing milk out of a measuring cup is good cleaning, by the end of the day the milk is going to get sour and smell up the whole house. It isn't being wasteful.
I think both sides are overreacting, it will all blow over by the end of the day.
2006-09-12 08:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be in a very stressful relationship. If things like this happen often, I'd try to figure out what the REAL ISSUE is. I think this kind of behavior is symptomatic of something else being the problem and no one confronting the real problem. There can't be a fight unless there is more than one willing (wanting) to fight. I wouldn't buy into this because becoming angry is not good for anyone, especially one with a serious health issue. Try to find a time when everything is calm to talk with your spouse about your relationship and what both of you can do to make it better.
2006-09-12 08:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the whole family got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.
Just the fact that it led to such a huge blowout is concerning though .... what else is going on in the household .... seems to be more of an issue than milk. I think milk was just the straw that broke the camel's back.
Look deeper.
2006-09-12 08:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly I think that it was a non issue, especially if there was enough milk left over. I am a guy, and if my wife was diabetic, I would make sure that she had her proper diet, irrespective of whether there was enough milk for me or not. We too have had situations where sometimes we have not had enough of something in the house.
The rules we have are very simple - first priority for anything is our one year old son. Second priority is for whoever needs it more.
Btw you mention 'their breakfast' - does this mean your husband and child/ren?
I hope this has been of some use
2006-09-12 08:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by mockturtl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have arisen early in the morning and tried ye ole water in the milk trick. I can actually see both sides of the argument, but the name calling was mean. Relationships are about compromise and it doesn't look like anyone was willing to do that in your home this morning. Be big and do something nice for everyone today and then move on.
2006-09-12 08:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am not sure why you keep said "they" wouldn't let it go and enough milk for "them" when you only mention your spouse.
If the milk was low and I had ANY doubt that there may not have been enough for everyone, I would have used a little less than normal. If it was enough for both to use split it evenly.
But as far as your spouse getting all bent out of shape, it was uncalled for. He could have stated his displeasure ONCE and then let it go. Fill his bowl to see if it would have worked.
But do not go on and on about something that trivial.
2006-09-12 08:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bob A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't wrong for getting angry but you probably should let it go. A long time ago my husband and I agreed to forgive anything said in the morning. We are not morning people and the less we speak the less we will argue in the morning. We get along great any other time but I swear we would be better off getting up at different times or in different houses! We just had to learn to ignore the petty morning crap.
2006-09-12 08:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by sutra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, your spouse is. We go through a lot of milk. When it runs out, it doesn't turn into a fight. We just get more. We find something else to eat and drink for breakfast.
2006-09-12 08:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by toricp3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as one can see, you have done nothing wrong at all. Try to talk to your man. Something else is eating him.
Some people are fond of keeping their grudges against the partners secret while needling the poor partners witn pointless accusations. Ask your man what the real problem is so that you can get round to solving it. Good luck.
2006-09-12 10:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Johannu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely there must be some other underlying issue besides milk. It sounds like rather a pathetic argument to me. I'd start to take notice of any other clues to what is really bugging your other half.
2006-09-12 08:02:59 · answer #11 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋