I'm just wondering - I never want to be married myself - I don't believe in public relationships. No disrespect to anyone - I just want to hear people's opinions on this matter. Thanks in advance, Suneel.
2006-09-12 00:57:15 · 15 answers · asked by solo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for that aggressive answer. I meant I don't believe in my relationships being publicly approved by anyone, especially not the state. Not that it matters, but I'm not homosexual, although you are a homophobe.
2006-09-12 01:03:11 · update #1
in the truist sense of the marriage vows, no, marriage is a contract and the things that "break" the contract are the points of the vows "love, honor, and respect" clause ... so ... when the contract is broken by either party, then divorce is inevitable ... you can make the case for hypocracy in any contract when any party to it violates the terms of that contract.
2006-09-12 01:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is looked upon differently by everyone. You can meet the love of your life at 25, get married, start a family and live happily ever after. If you are one of those people congratulations. On the other hand, what happens if the relationship turns sour? A previous answerer wrote about her abusive husband. In my opinion, that's not a marriage. She has every right to get married again (good luck to you!) to find the 'perfect partner'. Or what about if the partner dies at the age of 30? Is the widow meant to be alone for the rest of their life?
I agree with what you wrote about public marriages. Long term relationships and cohabitees have the right to 'refuse' marriage. The concept of marriage is too old fashioned when divorce is so readily available. Look at celebrities who get married half a dozen times with the marriage lasting less than a year, less than a week in some cases. I don't think that marriage means what it did in the past. It's all too easy to get married and divorced without thinking it through. That's why I don't think I'll bother! If marriage is meant to be something so special, then why don't people stick to it?
I know my answer seems a little confused so I'll sum it up! Everybody should have the freedom to say whether or not they want to get married, who they want to marry and when/if they want the marriage to end. If they want to remarry in the hope of finding a perfect husband/wife, then so be it. It's an individual choice and the marriage itself is a declaration of their love to one another.
Me.....I think I'll stick with cohabitation! It doesn't mean that I love my partner any less, it just gives myself and my partner freedom to choose whichever direction we want.
2006-09-12 12:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by roxpox99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are people so obsessed with marriage and divorce. It's not for everybody. Nobody knows if a marriage will work out or not but why be afraid of the future. I feel as though if my parents never got married I would never be here, but if she hadn't got divorced and remarried I would not have the best stepdad either. Whatever happens happens. Life is what you make it. It is your choice to marry or not but no one can predict the future.
2006-09-12 08:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see what you mean, but not really. Humans are always looking for 2ND chances, is like we are always hoping and that's the best thing humanity have, because even when we know we'll die and we don't know the day we keep searching to improve health, communications, science, etc. So, remarry for me isn't hypocritical, I believe is our nature for searching something better, besides, What's the idea in be with a person that for some reason you don't love no more?
2006-09-12 08:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Javy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the restrictions that the government puts on relationships in order to get certain benefits. It is the fault of the government. If people could freely be together and be afforded the same benefits as married people, I guarantee you that more people would not get married. There really is no purpose for marriage. Look at what the government does to homosexuals. They tell them they can't be legally married because they don't approve of homosexuality. Not all corporations have domestic partner benefits available so one partner might not have health benefits. The only purpose for marriage I see is long term benefits.
2006-09-12 08:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well in my case I did mean my vows when I married however I did not know when I married that my husband (now ex) would become an emotional then physical bully. I have now been on my own for over 13 years and I hope that one day I will find a caring man who I would want to marry till death do us part.
2006-09-12 09:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by bestbudlb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suneel in response to your question, I was in a marriage for 26 years and I had 6 children within that marriage, I was abused almost every other day and it took me many many years to realise I deserved to be happy, I have since left that marriage and have reunited with one of my first true loves of 30 years ago and he has never married and he has asked me to marry him, I am the happiest I have ever been and he is the man I need to spend the rest of my life with. He respects and loves me and has made me believe I can be loved back without abuse.
2006-09-12 08:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by denniseanne60 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so right. This last weekend I attended a wedding in a Baptist Church and the pastor actually said "Til death do you part" and "Let no man put asunder that God has...." What a joke! The man had been married before and his two children were in the wedding party. I almost bust out laughing.
2006-09-12 08:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who else will clean out the bedpans when you get old - why not non one wants to be lonely - nope not hypocritical just life so get on up and move with the times - mogonmy seems dead to some and we all make mistakes so move and be happy we are living longer then we ever did to so no wonder we want to divorce 42 years with the same person is ages
2006-09-12 12:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by ruddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good point.
Hence, why Christians are so opposed to divorce. Marriage is meant to be 'until death do you part'. If you weren't in it for the long run, why bother with the short run?
2006-09-12 08:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by seraphim_pwns_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋