I need to know how to anaylize my relationship with my Fiance better. I don't know if Im over reacting, reading into too much or just "anaylizing" too much! Or if I really know it's true that I accept the fact that I was only meant to be a "stay home" FULL time mom for the first 2 years of my son's life and now it's time to get out, go back to work and get the hell away from this emotional, mental abusing relationship. Any councilors out there that could contact me? Please? or anyone have good advise?
2006-09-12 00:09:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you have a bad case of cabin fever. You did mention emotional, mental abusing relatioship. Who is abusing who here, or are you both abusing each other. You sound like you need to get involved in a mom's and tots group where you can socialize with other mom's. More for support. They could be going through the same thing as well. How you are living right now is not healthy for either of you, especially your son. You are a full time Mom reguardless if you are working outside the home or not. There is nothing about being a part time mom ...ever. Try some family councelling maybe for guidance on how to be a functional family without having all the emotional stress. People don't come with instructions, everything is learned behavoir, it's what you do and how you react to situations is what your son will be learning as well. look in your phone book for crisis line if things are out of controll, and they should guide you through the proper channels. Good of you to see a problem, better of you for wanting the help. Stick to it and be strong.
2006-09-12 00:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a councillor - but been there done that get yourself a part time job at first work your self up to the full time thing. Not every one is the baking cookie sugar and sweet mom plus staying home with no interaction with other adults is very unhealthy
Get a job get back some independence have a conversation that doesn't include dippers this may or may not bring your relationship back on track.
Good Luck
2006-09-12 07:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to do is go to your doctor and ask for help, they always have contacts/councillors that they can reccomend you too. Secondly, try discuss it with your man, if you can. But seriously, speak to your doctor who will put you in touch with the right people to help you through this difficult time in your life.
2006-09-12 07:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Acasia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to you gut instincts, honey. And NOBODY should stay in an abusive relationship. It's not just your mental health at stake, but think of your child.
2006-09-12 07:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by capobeachgrandma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you have determined that the relationship is emotionally and mentally abusive, the next obvious step is to divorce the man. no amount of analysis will change that fact. see a lawyer
2006-09-12 07:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you sound pretty f*(&()ked up. You need to look in the yellow pages where you live for a consultation with a real person and not via the Internet.
2006-09-12 07:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have post pratum depression.
Sounds like both you and the husband need counseling.
Work on the marriage. It is too soon to give up
2006-09-12 07:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would love if my hubby insisted on me staying at home just taking care of kids. he now hints that i might start searching for a job. u don't understand how lucky u re. why life sucks so much and we never get what we want?
2006-09-12 07:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do we always have the child before we have a marriage or a real relationship??if the relationship is abusive then get out. why have a child in the midst of chaos???get out and get on with your life.it's been done before.
2006-09-12 07:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is patient and kind
Love does not keep a record of wrongs
Love is gentle
Love is caring
Love is not about control, fear, pain, imprisonment
Stop and think what kind of love do you want and need?
Peter
2006-09-12 08:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋