2006-09-09 23:51:28 · 22 answers · asked by goodbye and good luck :-) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can never say, "Oh you should be over him/her already" because everyone is different. I know that my grandfather never got over the loss of his wife, while my grandmother, may not have gotten over the loss of her husband, she did go on to live a very fulfilling life.
2006-09-10 00:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is the most difficult question I ever tried to answer to...
I lost my soul mate, the one I wanted for life and now I feel so empty.
I cried for such a long time that now I just feel dull.
I have to go to work each morning and this in a way is good, because otherwise I would spend my all day in bed, staring at the ceiling...
Try to fill your day with job tasks, errands or whatever. Try not to stay alone, even if you feel you cannot stand other people talking to you.
The night is the worst part of it, but if you manage to get to bed really tired maybe it wouldn't be so bad.
Then, as time passes by, hopefully you may find some new light in your way...
'Til then...carry on...
2006-09-10 07:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by xxx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever do 'get over' it.
You hopefully learn to deal with it, and try to move on in your life. The problem is if you never 'fell out of love' with them it's very difficult to fall in love with someone else.
Your new partner is almost there by default, as if given the choice you would never have been with them to start with. That makes it tough on both sides.
You have to bear in mind normally when you part company with someone, after a while you take all the photos down. It can't be easy for your new partner to accept that you don't really want to do this and they are faced with happy images of you both all the time.
I'm reminded of an episode of the TV show 'Monk' and the last words from his dieing wife - 'Bread and Butter'. Look it up for an explanation. It sums it up very well.
2006-09-10 07:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The death of someone you cared for, and were close to, can take a long, long time. There are various stages of grieving and you should not beat yourself up over feeling sad, missing them, or listen to anyone who tells you to "snap out of it" or that you "should be over it by now". Grief is a personal journey for each individual.
2006-09-10 08:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my husband of thirty five years two years ago, and I still cry. I don't think I will ever get over missing him. sometimes when I have to do something I hear him telling me to do it this way. I pray alot to Jehovah and Jesus to get me threw the day and night. the bed is empty now and sometimes I wake up crying missing him so much. some days are better than others. some people handle it different.
2006-09-10 07:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats completely depends on the person and the way they handle it. If the departed was really loved then the living partner may never get over he/she
2006-09-10 06:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ruairi McNeany 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you never do .. they will always be apart of you, daily in your heart. You never really get over it but you have to have the strength to live your life still to the fullest. But still honor them, with your history together.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-10 06:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is different. It took my mom over 30 years. It took me at least 5 to get over my wifes death. And you never really get completely over it
2006-09-10 07:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by charles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't GET OVER it, you just feel a little better every day. its like a burn- it leaves a scar, and it might still hurt, but its healed. letting go is the big step, and that's what might be hard. once you stop picking at the burn, it can heal itself and even though you remember it happened, you feel a lot better afterwards.
2006-09-10 07:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it takes as long as you can accept your partner is nolonger there some can not take this in. they continue to grieve but this does harm than good. the longer you still hang on to the hurt the harder it is to get over.so free your mind and take life easy let go of the past and move on.its not easy but you can do it
2006-09-10 07:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by jollybear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋