Can you tell me if you wished it never happened and came to realize that it was lust and want to make right with your spouce OR was there to much guilt to want to come home and moved on OR what did you feel emotionally.
Thanks for your insight.
2006-09-09 23:50:05 · 16 answers · asked by james.ampmerch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Usually it is because it is available, and they can!!
2006-09-09 23:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it because I was not getting the emotional and physical support from my now ex. He told me he didn't want to have sex with me because I was too fat (size 6 only!). I was crushed and found support from a male friend.
When I told him I was having an affair and was leaving him, he was crushed. I will never forget his pain, it still haunts me to this day. No matter what he said, and how much he hurt me, I feel that his pain by what I did was 10 times greater. He begged me to stay and I hated myself for hurting him so much. So I decided to stay with him and did everything to make it right. On his request, I quit my job, stopped talking to my friends(because they knew about it all), and was his slave.
A year later, he asked for a divorce because he couldn't live with what I had done. Well, that was his story anyway. He actually left me for a size 0 girl. Touche.
The experience taught me a lot. It is not something that I will ever do again. I wish it never happened, but then again, I don't think I would be where I am now without the experience. I would have been stuck in a loveless, emotionally abusive relationship. And I wouldn't have learned about the pain that adultery causes.
2006-09-10 11:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by sammie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say i wished it never happened. But what i can say is that i wasted some very precious years with a man who really did not have my best interest at heart. It took me awhile to figure that out., and also how he was more interested in what HE could get out of the relationship. The relationship was practically one-sided..him always holding on to the 'purse strings'.
I ended up returning back home - and yes, i felt angry with myself for what i didn't see. And of course i felt gult and remorse. It is something i am learning to deal wth as days go by.
2006-09-10 07:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I cheated on my husband it was after years of trying to make a miserable marriage work. I could not handle the guilt at that time. So we split, divorced ( That was the best thing that ever happened to me)
But right now I am involved with a married man, something I sid I would never do. But it happened. DO I feel guilty, NO......... Should I ? Probably......... I don't know her, and basically my feelings are that I am giving him something that he isn't getting at home...AND I DO NOT EXPECT HIM TO LEAVE HER, WE ARE HAVING FUN, AND WE BOTH KNOW IT'S LUST.......
We are both over 21, and there are no children involved......
2006-09-10 07:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Suzi W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We talked, and talked some more, I suggested counseling, and you didnt want that, so what am I to do? I have feelings too. So I had an affair, which was very fulfilling, no strings, and told her about it and she went beserk because I stepped out. So the only reasonable thing to do was file for divorce, there we'rnt any kids, so I took what was rightfully mine, left her with her bicycle, hired a hit man, and I left town. I am happily married to the gal with no strings attached, living in Vegas, gambling the insurance money from her accidental death
2006-09-10 07:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought it was the best thing for my marriage. No guilt and it made me appreciate my wife all the more. Not sure why but it did. I've heard that from friends as well. Used to be it was almost expected to have a mistess. Unfortunately all the religious zealots have manipulated society again into believing something that is not natural, monogamy in the male.
2006-09-10 06:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had my affairs out of revenge because of my wife's multiple affairs. I am glad I found 2 other women that are trusted friends and were eager to have some fun with me. I am not at all sorry and that's only because of the extent of the deceit from my wife. I don't care what my wife does anymore. I found she's not worth all the effort I put into resolving our marriage.
2006-09-10 10:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
subconsciously maybe I was trying to get even about the hurt he had done...but by the end of the day I realized I have mistaken..The relationship with the other man was not that bad but I know it is wrong...we broke and now I m working for a better realtioship with my husband
2006-09-10 07:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by simplegal170905 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years in a non-sexual marriage I cheated. I dont feel guilty just relieved that I found someone who wanted to share intimacy with me.
2006-09-10 08:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wish it never happened but it opened my eyes. I now appreciate all I have (don't know what you got till it's gone!) Move on, don't dwell on the past.
2006-09-10 07:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by confusius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when you just need to feel like someone cares. The soft touch, the tender kisses, the earth shattering orgasm :-)
2006-09-10 17:22:56 · answer #11 · answered by rikv77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋