A man loves me...a married man. His wife is violent and I know this as I heard this from his son too (who is a decent boy), and she would come with long canes, knives, bottles in her hand and throw at her son out of rage. Her socio-economic status also doesnt match his. He has tried a lot but has failed in his endeavour so much so that he has fallen in love with me as we gel very well. but since he has lived with his wife for so many years , he says he loves his wife. He says that he loves both of us just as we love both our eyes. His wife has been always suspicious of him as he is a doctor. She is taking medicines for anxiety.His wife has given him 2 children n so he wont divorce his wife as this would affect his children and also bcoz he doesnt want to commit sin.
2006-09-09 22:02:52 · 27 answers · asked by Sweet Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's he who has chosen to continue the affair with me coz it gives him mental relief.
2006-09-09 22:11:23 · update #1
Many men would love to have an extra lady they can spend time with, and sleep with. Few are able to find a woman silly enough to accept that their lover won't ever be anything but a lover. Your stud should be congratulated. Perhaps he's wasting himself by just being a doctor. With his ability to sell ideas, he could get rich selling ice to Eskimos. You know there is no future to this, what is the point of continuing the affair?
2006-09-10 02:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are committing sin and so is he. You both need to stop. You have made so many excuses for his sorry butt...She is insecure and that has nothing to do with his profession. Why are you in touch with his son?! A wife's socio-economic status always matches her husband's ~ what does that mean?! So what anyhow if they are mismatched. That is not your problem. Since you don't know better than NOT to have an affair with a married man, take his WORD that he won't get a divorce. RUN AWAY. There are a million SINGLE men and several good matches for you out there. The 1st criteria you want in a man is AVAILABLE, GIRL!!! There will always be people you "gel" well with, but if they are unavailable, you must be strong enough to say no and walk away: you know, exert some self control. Your message was filled with "his wife," "his wife," "his wife," "his wife." Free yourself and start your next relationship with some morals and boundaries. Best wishes. LEAVE THIS GUY AND HIS FAMILY ALONE.
2006-09-10 03:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He loves both you just as we love both our eyes." Sounds like he loves himself even more. Wow has he done well. Look if he was such a great guy and his wife was so violent then he would leave her and take his kids away from her. Why would you want to be with a married man. It is wrong. If he leaves his wife, fine but until then, no. Of course he will stay with his wife and have you too. Trust me I have seen this scenario was to ofter. It is always the same: My wife is horrible but I can't leave her because of the child, You are so different and caring, I know this is wrong but. Sorry hun, even if what he says is true, you still deserve better then to be the mistress of a married man with children. No matter how genuine you feel about him you are always going to be the bad guy and there is no way it will end well. You need a guy who will commit just to you. If you are looking for justification on here, good luck. I understand where you are coming from, I really do but it will suck the life out of you and take a part of your soul that you will one day want to give to someone else. Seriously.
Dear, I don't think it is mental relief he is looking for.
2006-09-09 22:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is already committing sin. This is just a case of having your cake and eat it, and keeping you in a little corner, wasting your life on a married man. He is just saying that about his wife, to not marry you. Just run, and I mean as fast as your little legs can carry you. Red flags all over the place, a violent wife, does not sound very good. Turn on the TV and watch these crime stories, most of them are over jealous wife or husband, and some way or another does away with the mistress. He is probably there for a reason, maybe she is rich, who knows, but he is not for you. I don't' care how good looking and what he says, he is wasting your time and also put you in harm's way. Don't be a fool, and go out and find yourself your real man, who might by the time this jerk is done with you, WILL BE LONG GONE. Go find your real man, and not any more time with this one who is ok to sin with you but will not sin and divorce his wife. RUN....
2006-09-09 22:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already commiting sin by cheating on her. Have you ever stopped to think that she may have a reason to be behaving so violently?Her husband is cheating with another woman and he has probably done this before. But the woman do sound crazy and you should be concerned with your own safety and leave that man alone. Besides,it is wrong to see a married man.I don't care how you try to rationalize it , it is still wrong in the eyes of God. There are plenty of unattached men for you to choose from I'm sure and that is where you should be directing your energy.For him to say he is never going to leave his wife should tell you something,that you will always be a standby for him, an affair and nothing more. Don't you want more out of life? He is not going to leave her,if they divorce,she is probably going to get half of his money and that is probably why he doesn't really want to divorce. But you should get your own man.
2006-09-09 22:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIN???? The sin here is this man letting his wife abuse their child. Any good parent would know when to step in before its too late. He would help the lady get into counseling.
And I don't think you should get involved with this guy it sounds like he's feeding you lines. "as we both love our eyes" come on now. Maybe he has feelings for both of you, but he needs to either leave this chick or stay with her and leave you alone. He's playing games. And hes not being a very good father. Which is the sin here: Divorcing a woman who is hurting their child or Staying with her even though she is obviously not showing love or being caring towards her family and she doesnt want to get help.
She's on Xanax right? That makes people crazy and violent too. Just to let you know. Things will just get worse if she doesnt really try to change herself.
2006-09-09 22:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by sarah20xoxoyeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to commit a sin .heellllllllooooooo he is having a affair omg that's a sin in its self,its one of the 10 commandments!!Honey this guy is only using you for a piece of strange,he is only telling you he loves you so you wont go no where and you'll be on call when he needs a piece.He isn't going to leave his wife and this he has even told you so why are you even wasting your time?And regardless how his wife treats him that's her husband and your committing adultery!!Don't you have any morals?Why even put yourself thru something like this.Best bet is for you to move on and find a guy who isn't taking already!!Your about to break up a home and a marriage think of this guys kids instead of your selfish self!!Good luck and get some smarts and do the right thing and leave him alone!!He ia a sorry looser and think about this if he can do his wife like he is doing do you think he wouldn't cheat on you?hahahaaha get real!!I wish ya the best good luck!
2006-09-09 22:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to sin but he is having an affair , he doesn't want a divorce because that a sin
Girl stop, you have been used and what is his son doing in this mess let this disfunctional family alone
walk away and you will meet someone that care for you in hte future
you can take this as a lesson so next time a jerk try to put God (sin) in front of you as an excuse you will know that is proof as him being a phonny
Say Goodbye to I don't wan to SIN
You know if you don't you might either end in jail with those two or testifying for them
because one of these days they will use this woman mental problem as an excuse to do away with her
2006-09-09 22:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why that sucks
It all depends on if you love him back. Because if you don't then you are just messing up a relationship and should emediatly appologize to the wife and leave the state or city and DO NOT tell him where you are going
If you do truely love him then you should get out of this. It's causing him alot of pain by trying to chose between the two women he love. do him a favor and take a long vacation and when you come back he might have just started to get over you
2006-09-09 22:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by ~serendipity~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello wake up and smell the coffee.
#1 He is not going to leave his wife for you.
#2 He is already committing sin by sleeping with you
#3 If it's a doctor you want as a husband either find one that is available (ie. not married) or try one with another career.
2006-09-09 22:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋