So my boyfriend of 2 years and I took the "big step" about 5 months ago. We've been using condoms, but I'd feel better if I was on the pill, since my cousin has been telling me how effective it is. The problem is I'm not 18 yet. How do I talk to my perants and my doctor about getting on the pill? Are the exams really horrible, because I really don't like the thought of someone down there. If you have other suggestions about other types of birth control [I'm a bit past the abstinence stage so please keep that comment to yourself] and the horrible exam tips, feel free to tell me.
Thanks
2006-09-09 21:26:18 · 8 answers · asked by Raven 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm still lokking for answers.
For that first answer, we ARE in love. We've been together for 2 years now, it's amutual agreement, and we we're together for a year and a half before doing anything sexual.
And I'm 17 by the way, but I have about a year before my next birthday.
I just had to say that. Although I think the one answer "go into the room and ask if your perants want to become grandparants" gave me quite a laugh.
2006-09-09 21:38:53 · update #1
You should definitely talk to your parents about this. And you're very smart to be thinking about it. Your parents probably already know on some level that you have a sexual relationship with this boy, if you've been together for two years. Although it will be uncomfortable to discuss this with your parents, it's way more comfortable than telling them you're pregnant.
The exams really aren't that bad. They aren't great, but it's something you can easily do once a year. It's embarassing for you, but trust me, this is something a gynecologist does a hundred times a day. It's not something they will remember. (that's how I get through it. By knowing I'm the only person who will remember it).
While you're at the doctor, you might want to ask about the HPV vaccine. It protects against 4 viruses that cause genital warts- the same virus that causes cervical cancer. Right now insurance only pays until you're 26, so might as well get it.
The pill is effective in preventing pregnancy- not stds. You should continue to use condoms, and think of the pill as a back up method.
2006-09-09 21:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by trivial 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not have unprotected sex. Just too many diseases, even if you are on the pill, still have protection. You can tell your Mother privately that there may be a time that you might get carried away and have sex, and you do not want to have a baby at your age. You do not feel comfortable without it. If you want to confide in her, then this is the time that maybe you should do it. She will understand, and I am sure she would rather you have protection that to help you decide about an abortion or adoption. I do not know how old you are, but I was a virgin when I married, and I know times are different now, but I would just try to stay away from sex until you are older. It is your choice. Do you really enjoy it that much, or is it for his pleasure. When you break up, he is going to brag to all his friends, if he isn't doing it now. You are going to feel used when that happens. Just try to do your homework and think about college ahead of you and a career. The safest way is a condom, but the best is to just say no.
2006-09-10 04:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ya there is no need for you to be examined at all unless there is some other medical reason,it's up to you if you want to tell your parents,because as far as i know all you need to do is go to your Dr and ask to be out on the pill,simple as that,they don't need to know,and what goes on between you and your Dr is strictly confidential,you are been so very sensible i just wish more young women would take a leaf out of your book,then there wouldn't be so many unwanted pregnancies,so if you want to tell your parents is up to you,if you think they will be fine with it go ahead,but if not just confide in your Dr,good luck and well done for taking on the responsibility
2006-09-10 04:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by amber_xx66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't tell my parents... I went to my local health department and got it for free. They don't tell your parents at all and that was a load off of my mind.
The pap smear isn't bad, just relax. The more tense you are the worse it is.
I have heard that the depo shot is good, but I have not done that myself.
2006-09-10 06:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to talk to your parents about this and you can go to your local health dept.for the pills,or your guidance counselor can help you talk with your parents .this way you got some support behind you.Your parents Im sure would rather you be safe than sorry.
2006-09-10 04:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you say. "Mom, dad? Do you want to be grandparents? if not i suggest we talk to a doctor about putting me on "The Pill"." Then walk out of the room.
2006-09-10 04:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest to your parents about the sex you had, and they should get you on the pill... if not talk to a counselor at school maybe they can recommend someone to get you the pill...
2006-09-10 04:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be up front and honest with your parents about you gettin birth control; and explain how you would like to find a better way other than birth control
2006-09-10 04:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋