Do you first come to love with your heart or your mind?
And
If you truly gave your heart, would you let your mind get in the way?
In short, do you believe in pure, unconditional, absolute love?
2006-09-09 21:21:24 · 26 answers · asked by Bender 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
heart always leads in love, and yes i do believe in unconditional love
2006-09-09 21:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very profound and excellent question.
Yes. I do believe, understand and realised, there is such a thing as unconditional, pure non-discriminating love.
- In Love
- Love
- Unconditional love
All feeling arise from the mind; they are generated by thought.
We also need to understand that in general, without training the mind, we are ruled by a very self-centred and grasping mindset.
The meaning is that we first look at ourselves as being the most important and deserving.
We expect in our conscious and subconscious mind, even in our kindest moments, something in return. Even if we have a strong feeling for another Person "The IN Love Factor", these self-minds arise in the conscious and subconscious.
If we say, I Love you, with sincere intentions, we can observe disappointment and a felling of unease when that phrase is not returned. That is the self-cherishing element of the mind; it runs rampant in all our actions and feelings.
On top of that, we get jealous if someone wants something we have or we want and someone else has it. That can be found again in the so-called "In Love Factor or condition". This is the grasping effect, known as self-grasping. It grasps at objects that in reality does not exist and hold on so tight, that it can cause pain and suffering. The question, that many pose, is Why is love is painful. Because of those, tow elements. Self-cherishing and grasping.
"The in love" feeling is never unconditional, not given freely.
The Love - we feel a mother for her child gives, is already gearing closer to the unconditional love. No matter what we do, mother will always love us. She cleaned, fed and nurtured us when we where babies. Regardless on how repulsive pooh and vomit is. With loving care, she still loves and hugs us.
Later in life, when we become obnoxious teenagers, she may ground us or shout at us, but inside she feels love. The pain inside her having to punish us sometimes brings her to tears.
But there is still a slight element of self-cherishing and grasping.
Pure, Absolute, unconditional Love
That is a love that has removed all traces of self-cherishing and grasping. It has no need to be loved back, just happy to give and feel love for others.
It does not grasp, at the love or the person; it does need to won the right to love that person.
That love never needs to own someone’s love. It rejoices just to see the other happy.
This kind of love does not discriminate." I love you, but not you because
2006-09-10 05:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Foxey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and dont let your mind get in the way
There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.
Sometimes you have to let your heart lead you, even if you know it's not supposed to be where you're going.
Yeah,true,pure absolute,uncondiotional love does exist, and it`s the greatest thing ever.â¥â¥â¥
2006-09-10 05:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Your best friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart is "unthinking". It will start to fall in love TOTALLY without permission. The mind is "thinking."--and evaluates what you should and shouldn't do--REGARDLESS of your hearts madcrazy urges and stupidity. In the end, your heart and your mind end up wrestling mercilessly on the floor--and the victor is gets to say what you will actually do.
In my case, Heart and Mind struck a truce, and I walked patiently into a love that has lasted for 12 years. He's an awesome man--my husband.
And we share an unconditional love.
2006-09-10 04:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by HyperBeauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when you meet someone its obviously ur mind, but when you get to know them its your heart that expresses your feelings towards someone and its your heart that leads the rest of the way.
if you truly gave your heart, your mind wouldnt even be a factor of getting in the way. i mean if you start to question or start to "think" about the relationship, then its more than likely that its either headed towards failure or starting to get unstable about emotions.
i do beleive that their can be a pure love but most people are usually in lust with someone and once they have had sex or somethin, then it will never be the same. you may love them but there is still always going to be some type of sexual desire for them.
2006-09-10 04:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desire is always the first thing that comes up,or i wouldn`t bother starting anything,then the mind and heart work together to sum up whether i would do right by her or just use and abuse her for my pleasure.
Love grows from the beginning and invades the heart,but the mind is always the one in control,as you maybe the type that don`t want to settle down.
2006-09-10 06:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is alway unconditional, if its not then its not true love...When you love someone you love them with all your heart, mind and soul... To fall in love i believe it's both... To keep loving someone its the same... SO when it comes to love and which to follow heres my advice.. follow both use your head and heart but watch you heart it can sometimes lead to trouble.. just be cautious not to get your heart broke... GOOD LUCK
2006-09-10 04:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mandi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion love is unexplainable. It takes over your mind and you start thinking with your heart. I would say its the "heart" that makes the calls, not the mind. Your mind can get in the way but it will only make you miserable, best is to follow your heart.
2006-09-10 04:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Douglas R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has concerned me for years. I was always in a conflict with myself wondering why I would think I needed something or someone and when I received what I wanted I didn't feel any better. When I felt good with something or someone I thought I didn't. So, I sat down and started writing words on paper and I came up with this.....Upon reviewing the wanting thoughts in my mind and in careful consideration of the needed feelings in my heart ...I want with my brain and I need with my heart...so when both are in perfect harmony and I define harmony as a consistent, orderly, or pleasing arrangement of parts . Then you know in your mind and feel in your heart what true inner peace is.
2006-09-10 04:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe in pure, unconditional, absolute love... BUT it must be shared from both sides.
2006-09-10 06:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋