my best friend and i keep fighting becuase she is not happy with the school shes at and she misses her friend and i totally understand that butim trying to be a good friend and support her and try and make her happy but i dont know how because she is hurting my feeling but she doesnt know she is. i told her but she says shes not trying to but its just because i feel like im doing every thing i can to try and make her happy but she is still not happy so i dont know what to do ? she means the world to me though and i dont want to lose her
PLEASE HELP
2006-09-09 20:57:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is very common. When you're very mad and unhappy, you tend to argue a lot with anyone who crosses your path. But why is she hurting your feelings so much? You keep fighting over what?
Try to make her see that you only want what's best for her. It sounds to me that she's not very aware of that. Taking time off from a friend who needs you is not such a good idea unless she really refuses your help or maybe she wants to be alone for awhile.
Try to approach her in another way and really try to make her see how much she is hurting you. If she really deserves your great thoughts and attention, if she really is such a good friend, she will definitely realize that even though she doesn't like her school and she misses her friends, she has you. And from what i can tell, you must be a great friend to have.
Don't give up on her. Try talking less about what she misses and talk more about what she has and maybe doesn't value, like your friendship.
She needs to focus on other things. Help her on that. Do something together that you both like and enjoy.
Good luck and hope things turn out for the best!
2006-09-09 21:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dr_D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been on your side before. i know it isnt what you want to hear, but my best advice is to tell her truthfully how shes hurting your feelings. but dont give her any power over yo by making up excuses for how she is treating you, because in the end she'll just end up walking all over you. she may mean more to you than anything, but if you have tried to understnad and to help, and she continues to be unwilling to adjust her attitude toward you she isnt the right person for you. it may be scary to imagine not being friends with her, maybe even impossible. but why put yourself through that. if that seems to drastic for you: maybe give her some space to cool down, maybe you're making this a bigger deal for you than it is for her. with a day or two appart she might come to her senses. but if she starts hurting your feelings again you need to tell her the truth. if you dont think you can say it perfectly in person, write her a card. tell her how much she means to you, favorite memories, how you are sorry for her unhappiness, but that you feel like she is treating you in a way that makes you feel like she doesnt care about your feelings.
the most important thing is truth.
2006-09-09 21:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by sundaymorningbreeze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her happy, that comes from her. She needs to be a better friend and not make you miserable when you are trying to help her and be supportive. At least it sounds like your not taking it.........maybe if you tell her she is responsible for her own happiness and how she looks at things she will see the light so to speak.
2006-09-09 21:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enable the ladies make certain it out on their very own. it truly is not any longer your burden to undergo, nor do you may want to part with one pal over yet another. this kind of drama is absurd and both ladies might want to objective to placed aside their alterations and artwork issues out. How did all of it initiate besides, it type of feels to me like both ladies are taking issues thanks to a lot to coronary heart, this can probably all blow over and contained in the meantime, attempt to be supportive of both friends and tell them you know how they experience, yet you imagine that they must be those to artwork it out. This comprises no one else, and may proceed to be a private be counted, the comprehensive college would not want to understand, it wont make the concern any more desirable proper with the help of having third, fourth...etc activities in contact.
2016-11-25 23:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can back off a little bit until she realizes how much she misses your friendship (or how much she was hurting you).. you don't HAVE to be best friends.. you can still remain good friends (and still not lose her)... but try not to lose her as a friend entirely..
good luck!
2006-09-09 21:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by orange juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make every one happy . stop trying to make her happy . and just be friends .if she still hurts you.stay away from her a while .till she gets over it .
2006-09-09 21:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who knows you better than anyone is your arch enemy. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
2006-09-09 21:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from her. Like a week or two.
2006-09-09 21:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by peach49444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some time to adjust.tillthen support her.one day she will surely understand your feelings...
2006-09-09 22:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by saptaparna s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sleep with her boyfriend
2006-09-09 21:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by sniffles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋