The ex-girlfriend had drove me into a depression, i can't get out every time i think i'm over her the ******* ***** pops out of nowhere and trying be in my life. The thing is eveytime she does this i fall for her every time. i don't feel that i'm strong enough to let go either...i need some help what do i do?
2006-09-09 20:30:38 · 6 answers · asked by give_me_ink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to let her go - she does not define who you are or what you are about. This is a time for you to get your confidence back up, focus on the future and not the past.
She sounds like a game player - you don't need someone like that. Tell her that you don't want her to contact you anymore - that if she wanted to be with you and if it was working out then you would still be together and since you are not - that should say something. You are not ready to be friends with her and may never be so you need some space to figure things out.
The best way to NOT get over someone is when they keep coming into your life, you keep seeing them somewhere, etc. It is like a wound that is trying to heal and it keeps opening everytime you see her and then you are back to square one again. Unless you go to school or work with her or something, you can avoid seeing her I am sure - and even if you are in school with her, you can try to take a different route perhaps.
You have to do something to try to change this routine that you are in - cause all it has you do is feel bad. Dont' give her all that power to bring you up and bring you down and run your whole mind and heart - no one should be that powerful.
I understand that it hurts but it will keep hurting if you stay on this track. Sounds to me that she is enjoying you wanting her and missing her and that she is playing games with your heart. Next time - tell her that you need your space and that seeing her makes everything harder on you. Either she wants to be with you or she does not - but there should be no games. It leaves her feeling good and wanted and you depressed and lonely and that isn't right.
Let her know to give you some space unless she wants to get back together. And even if she does, I would ask yourself if you want to be with someone who plays games and is letting you get so down - making you get so down. But - she can't make you do anything or feel anything. Try to focus on things that you like to do. Spend time with family and friends -get out there. Distract yourself instead of thinking about her all of the time. If it was meant to be - it will be..so have some faith and trust in that.
You need to tell her - just do it- don't think twice about it. If you can't talk to her and say it - send her an email. LEt her know that she does not seem to be considering your feelings and only her own and that you need this time to yourself and you will let her know if you really ever can see her or talk to her again. Do what is best for you - take some of the consideration that you give her back for yourself. You have to be a complete person - who is 100% without someone. So - try - get your confidence back up. She doesn't deserve you.
2006-09-09 20:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frist you need to get out anyway. Staying inside your home will only make you more depress.If you run into her just avoid her. Don't make any effort in speaking to her or even looking at her. If your somewhere like a club then go find another girl to talk to. She'll want to think your just trying to make her jealous but forget that. Just don't start a new relationship with anyone until you feel you can. It takes time to get over someone you've had feelings for and trying to move on will take time. Don't go home feeling sorry for yourself that she's over it and your not. Just think if it were you that broke it off you would feel better already and she would be the one hurting. Things will work out for you but it will take time.
2006-09-10 03:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need some change....
start meeting other girls...see other types of girls.
she's not caring,and she doesn't feel how u feel...
i mean u ned someone to be caring right?
2006-09-10 03:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really depends who dumped who. If you dumped her kick her *** to the curb and just ignore her. If she dumped you....do the same. She'll get the picture eventually
2006-09-10 03:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by juju_63670 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you yourself have to let her not get back or else go somewhere for few months where she does not know you are.
2006-09-10 03:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got to be a man...and say hey get stepp'in....show her you don't care...even if you do...she comes back because she can...just leave when she shows up...i know your tired of it or you wouldn't be asking us... get up...tell her to step...you will fell good you did it this time.
2006-09-10 03:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋