start over? or start new?

Question

Should i start over............I am currently married and planning a annulment,
I am 19 and deployed to afghan.
our relationship was crapped even before i got sent here..


Then I met someone new (not here, but at home) who posess most of the qualities that I want in a husband, but I dont know if iI should stay and be miserable, or to leave and start over, (but this time not moving as fast)

what u think?

Answer 1

Start over. Life is too short to be miserable. Sounds like its not true love involved in your marriage. Believe me if it isn't true love it won't survive. I've been married 25 years to, yes the man who had all the qualities that I wanted. I love him more than anything, but guess what? He has been cheating for the last 3 yrs. I knew it just could't prove it. If this man went down this road with the love we shared, your marriage won't last. Listen to your heart. Don't do it because its the right thing to do or what you think people would think about you. Happiness is hard to find and hang onto. Grab it while you can and hold on for dear life.

Answer 2

Well if there's no hope for your former marriage then the best thing is to start over BUT next time, don't rush into something you're not so sure about. Take your time and if u have to, think about your decision a million times.

More importantly, know that marriage is a lifetime commitment. U can't just be married when u feel it's convenient for u and bail when it's not. Marriage takes work. It's not always going to be happy and there will be rough spots. U can't just bail when the going gets rough. U have to be willing to put in the hard work to make it last.

Answer 3

Well i think u must start over. Also, its not just about starting over etc.. as I may not be able to comprehend your problems sitting so far away from u and barely knowing u. But reading ur question i felt that u r fighting a battle withing urself, u r trying to come to terms with urself that what do u actually want. So in that regard i would like to say that you must do whatever u want to do regardless of how others would judge u for that. U are ur own judge. Whatever u do, u must not fall within ur own eyes, forget bout others. And also, dont be afraid to take bold steps. After all, u just have one life. Make the most of it. Gud Luck!!!

Answer 4

stay and be miserable. we all have become so intolerant and want-more types, that the greed for greener pastures never ends. once the initial excitement of the new toy ends u will be asking the same question again. I am sure there was a time that you loved your husband the way u r talking about this new exciting guy.all you have to learn is to stoop to conquer.
and be tolerable
hard hitting facts from an afghan.

but u have already made-up your mind whats the point of asking the question in the first place.

Answer 5

You sound like you need to grow up. Hopefully ther are no kids invoved here. Get an annulment if you do not have children. Do not get involved with anyone else until you grow up..

Answer 6

Talk to a trained professional but I wouldn't rush into anything study, travel, get a career live life than when you have all you wanted love will find you.

Answer 7

I think if you don't know then you need to grow up some. If you want someone to agree with how you already feel to appease you then i agree with whatever you choose to do.

Answer 8

start over

Answer 9

start over, and take it slow.

Answer 10

start over...we all make mistakes