Would that be selfish? The day my 5 month old was born I was so exhausted and couldnt wait for everyone to get out of my room. For the second time around Im seriously considering making everyone wait until the day after the baby is born. That way baby and I can have time to ourselves.
2006-09-09 19:47:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
byderule...in my case it was at 1:22 pm via c-section(low amniotic fluid past due date)...most likely it will be another c-section so theres no way it will be at 4 am unless its an extreme emergency
2006-09-09 19:59:52 · update #1
Deffinetly the next day for visitors!!!!!!!!!!!!
Even IF you had a baby at 4 in the morning! sheesh! Mom and baby (and dad too) need the first 24 hrs ALONE to rejoice!
My first one, via c-section. I was 18, had a girl. (she's 8yrs now)
I wasn't well enough for having visitors surround all over me and my baby girl just yet! My very first child, MY VERY OWN that my body just created LIFE, and being so young I couldn't get enough of holding her in amazment, and so much bonding. Of course everyone wanted to see how she turned out and couldn't wait to see her but that was a little uncomfortable! I took note on that one but I didn't have my 2nd one until I was 24.
My second one, Via c-section. I was 24, had a boy. (2yrs now)
The second time around put me at ease a little more just because I knew what to expect (for the most part) and I requested NO VISITORS until the next morning. Coming out of anesthesia and feeling the pain so much, wasn't appealing to have visitors the same day.
However, when my sister had her babies (3) she called everyone to come visit as soon as she felt rested and able to walk around...even after vaginal birth with all three. I guess it depends on the mom and how she feels after the *PRECIOUS new arrivel.
My opinion, since now, I will have C-section deliveries for my future children, I choose to wait at least 24 hours untill visitors come. It should be entirely up to the mom when visitors may visit.
Mom and baby deserve that time for each other. An ENTIRE 24 hours is not too much to ask for! huh? so, no, I don't that is selfish at all!
CONGRATULATIONS by the way!
2006-09-09 21:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cherries 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that idea. It's called LABOR for a reason. It's exhausting, and most women are not at their best just after delivering a baby. I had the nurses put a NO VISITORS sign on my door and asked them to say it was their idea, because I needed to rest after having had such a difficult and long labor and then finally a c-section. They totally went along with it because they understood that I just didn't want to be bothered, at least for a little while.
2006-09-10 02:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by DeDe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait and play off how you feel. You may have the energy to have people. You may be too hormonal or exhausted. No way to teel how you will feel after having the baby short of having a crystal ball that will show you in advance.
2006-09-10 03:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouls totally agree if i were in your shoes. its ok they probly have seen a baby once b4 on the same day. they can wait. i probly wouldn't let them see my child until like the first month lol excluding my mom and my husband. those r the only 2. u never know if someone cough and touched the door and they just happen to touch the door after that person then ur poor baby gets those darn germs. no no no not me.
2006-09-10 02:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by guesswhoohme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although people are anxious to see the baby and you, people are also eager to respect your wishes,just casually bring it up in conversation before the baby is born then have your nurses enforce it. With the way security is maternity wards now, no one should get through
2006-09-10 13:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Laura G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people are born at 4 in the morning
the next day sounds better for everybody
the father the mother and the baby has been cleaned up by then.
2006-09-10 02:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, that's fine to do. Hell, just don't call them until you want them to come. That way they can't argue, and you don't have to worry about them coming anyhow.
Oh, and if you're having the baby in the hospital, you can tell the staff NO VISITORS, and they'll enforce that for you.
That baby'll have a whole *life* to get to meet her extended family. They can wait a bit for you to rest and meet your new baby on your own terms.
2006-09-10 02:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by kalirush 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You may feel differently at the hospital. I had a lot of energy after my 2nd child was born. In any case, it's your choice. Be sure to talk to the doctor and the nurses. They will carry out your wishes.
2006-09-10 02:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by salsera 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is your baby.
One of the most important days of your life, right? You can be selfish at those times. However, I don't really think this counts as "selfish". No one is more excited than you, so you should get first choice on how to spend that first day...!
2006-09-10 03:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by mozzer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything, let the nurses do that! Get them to put a sgn on your door saying "no visitors, contact murses station" and they can tell your guests you're sleeping and to come back later/ tomorrow. Nothing like making someone else be the bad guy!
2006-09-10 02:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by smsgreaves 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋