i was with my ex for 5 years then he broke up with me. Its been 1 year since we broke up and I think im fine but when he starts talking to me i get all happy but all of a sudden he stops talking to me it hurts so much i spend so many nights crying. I dnt know wat to do anymore.
2006-09-09 19:29:29 · 24 answers · asked by aka ren from ren and stimpy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been in the same situation and after I wised up and made it my choice to no longer speak to him everything started getting better.
It is not healthy to be in a relationship like that where he has all the control
2006-09-09 19:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by christina J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ren, you have to quit talking to him.....it only makes it worse. If you can move so that you don't run into him that helps a lot. I don't know if I would still be here if my ex fiance hadn't been transfered to the east coast.....I would fall apart if I ran into him. Its bad enough when I occasionally see his friends when I go out, we dont' acknowledge each other but I have met enough people in my life that when a man meets me I know he's not going to forget it.....besides its obvious when they are avoiding looking at you. Just the other day I ran across something I wrote when it all fell apart....still hurts hun and its been over a year...we were only together for nine months, I can't imagine if it had been five years.
If you can remove yourself from any chances of seeing or talking to him you will get over it much faster. It also helps if one of those strangers happens across you, the kind where you see the person across the room and it feels you're in a matrix moment....trust me, two broken hearts and a hell of a memory are a lot easier to deal with then one aching broken heart.......go make some other memories.......you can fall in love or lust with someone else...but you have to make a concerted effort to meet the next one.
I wish you the best.
2006-09-09 19:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. You have to STOP talking to him until your feelings go away. I hate it but times heals all wounds. I dated my ex for 4 years and it's been a long six months of crying BUT I think in order to get over each other we MUST quit each other cold turkey first. No more casual conversation. After some time (you'll know when) Get back out there and start dating. Good luck sis and I UNDERSTAND ALL TOO MUCH. Don't beat your self up about being hurt.
2006-09-09 19:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by kim_mii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, in situations like this when you talk to him, you can not allow your feelings to get back involved. The best thing you can do is start your life over again without this dude. It's normal to feel this way because you love him, but at some point you must let go..I know it's easier said than done but just give it a try.
2006-09-09 19:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ultimate Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been hooked on my ex for about a year and a half. I think once you've found something great you just need to find someone else who is better... and sometimes that's a very hard thing to do. Don't cry too much, is he really worth all those tears?
2006-09-09 19:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by EcXeSSive ConSUmptiON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. before each thing, as determined and severe as your thoughts may be, they're going to change. severe college "love" is a really finicky ingredient and there are basically some boys who can carry close the theory at this age. concentration on you today. Your grades, your authentic friends, your destiny. This boys stuff will form itself out and maximum in all probability no longer for years. Your produce different, more desirable significant activities. trust me.
2016-11-25 23:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by parkhurst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new man. Don't spend time talking to the ex if he just ends up hurting you in the end. Move on and get yourself a brand new man.
2006-09-09 19:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Super Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess he trys to be a friend but you can't take it. SInce you still like him, why not start making yourself busy and meeting more people. Think why the breakup also helps, so that you won't fall into the same black hole. Have a clean break and mix around.
2006-09-09 19:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man.... first TRUE LOVE is so hard to get over!
It took me so long to get over my first boyfriend (or true love, if you will). I even find myself thinking about him now....which is totally dumb and immature, i know, but emotions...how can we change how we feel? That was real relationship and now its gone and its hard to move on.
A change of scenery might do you some good. Could you get out of your town for a while and get another job somewhere? it might be difficult, but maybe this might do you some good. I would also tell you to pray... pray that you could move on, pray for blessing on him (even though you may be mad at him), but just try to let him go and try to move on, one step at a time, day by day. Good luck!
2006-09-09 19:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give him a chance to talk to u ...its better for u specially that u still have feelings for him....so better for u to stay away and dissapear this way u can forget him easily ...ry not to think about him try to be busy as much as u can .....and surrounded by freinds and have fun .....im sure u will forget him ...lots of cuties out there waiting .
2006-09-09 19:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by black cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋