Married or Divorced, why is their a choice??and to divorcees do you regret it?

Question

Why cant people work to keep the family together like they did years ago, divorce causes so much pain, to children and families in and out laws it effects everyone is it worth it ??

Answer 1

THE MORE DEPENDENT YOU R FOR ANYTHING ON YOUR HUSBAND THE GREATER THE CHANCES OF DIVORCE.IF YOU R LIKE A BUSINESS PARTNER WHERE YOU BOTH NEED EACH OTHER AND CANNOT SURVIVE WITHOUT EACHOTHER. THE LESS THE CHANCE OF BREAK-UP.

Answer 2

Yes divorce is worth it. Divorce causes pain and so do staying with a person who makes you miserable. Look people sometimes get married to the wrong people or get married for the wrong reasons and so you made a bad decision do that mean you must suffer for the rest of your life. Some people you just can' work out your differences with so YES cut your loses and move on. No l do not regret getting a divorce and will probably get another soon.

Answer 3

Living with someone, giving and receiving respect and working daily to keep your vows are very difficult in today's society. People don't seem to be instilled with the high values of our older generations. They are too much into themselves. They don't put their children first and their week backbones are to fragile. They prefer the easy way out.
Many people marry for the wrong reasons( lust not love) and love itself is even not enough. Their vows are just words and true commitment was never there in the first place. Many (both men and women, but mostly men) want their cake and eat it too. They want to hold their spouses down while they continue to have other people.
Lastly, respect has little or no meaning today. They want it but have no intentions of giving it. They do not believe in not doing to someone else what they would not want done to themselves.
Here is the saddest statistic of all. "The number one cause for people getting divorced today is getting married".

Answer 4

I think women realize that you do NOT have to be married to have accomplised something like in the past. If you were not married by 25 people would say what the hell is wrong with you? Women are the ones that put up with things for years in a marriage and keep it together. So many women give up the things that make them happy for their man and children. You must make youself happy first to make others happy. Maybe Oprah has given women guts to just drop things and not have this feeling of guilt about it. Do what makes you happy as long as you are not hurting yourself or others.

Answer 5

your name is lucky 777....luck is what most hope for...instead of knowing that a marriage is a JOB...they think of love in the shape of cut out hearts or free sex...get bored...or becomes distracted
...results in divorce...Marriage is a sacrament of God...and when God is excluded the marriage is a hopeless case! It is a JOB to stay married...a great wonderful JOB that God honors and blesses...sure problems arise...but the ability to overcome troubles are through the power of the Holy Spirit through Christ Jesus! God is left out of our marriages that is why there is divorce. Man has no idea to lead spiritually, and woman does not know her place, much less be a help mate! Children are devastated and lost and the world is full of Children from broken homes...Even Pres. Clinton was from a broken home and look what a mess he is! Yes divorce, adultery, infidelity...all these things weaken the human race.

Answer 6

I agree with you 100%,Lucy. When people get married,they have to know that it's not always going to be easy.So many couples give up way too quickly at the first sign of trouble.Every marriage has their ups and downs.My marriage has been through just about every crisis a married couple can go through.Communication and compromise are very important in a marriage.We didn't give up when something went wrong.We just worked even harder to make it work and to make it better.We have now been married for 20 years,and we've never been closer.Like I said,I've faced just about every problem a marriage can face,but we made it through with a lot of love,patience,communication,compromise and most of all, a stubborn will to make it work.The problems can be overcome in a lot of situations if the will to survive any crisis is there.

Answer 7

Keep in mind....when a couple divorces, not both people wanted it. You can only control your thoughts and feelings and not your spouses.

Even though I did not initiate the divorce, I'm much happier now. Can't say the same for my ex who wanted the divorce and is now absolutely miserable.

I guess the grass isn't always greener on the other side in her case.

Answer 8

A lot of people suffered in silence years ago. It's hard to say which is worse. I was with a man who continuously cheated. That's not a recipe for a happy household. Have you ever heard the phrase, "If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."

Answer 9

no its not worth it. Unless the couple didn't make any children then its okay for them to divorce but not when they have children. In my opinion you should not marry unless you really love the person and your willing to stay with him/her forever in your life...

Answer 10

I am old fashioned, and I believe that you get married once....That's it..... but I recently have become seperated from my p.o.s husband...and my excuse is that because we're all only human....and life is too short to be miserable when you don't have to be!! I'm not saying that we shouldn't give it our best, but there's no point in beating a dead dog. And I was heart broken when he left me, but now I am so much happier

Answer 11

I did keep it together for 19 1/2 yrs I put up with the abuse, both phsycal and mental, and verbal, it should have ended 6 months after we got married, he changes like that........ but because I dont believe in divorces i stayed which was the wrong thing to do. I suffered alot, I cried, all the time even got a crack jaw.
Well you ask why they dont stay together any more there are lots of reasons, you dont understand unless you have lived in someone else shoes, what you see on the out side as and outsider is different from what goes on in the home in private.
you dont know that person until you have lived with that person and some times getting that paper changes one in the relationship. eVEryone who knows me will tell you I did try, over and over and over and over, and when i left everyone thought I would go back running home to him or i would be soon married again, everyone was wrong i will never remarry it has been 6 yrs I dont want to ever marry again, one bad one was enough for me,
no I dont blame other men for what one did to me, I just dont want to ever go thur that again, yes I love someone now but still, I could never marry again, to much hurt there, I would rather live all alone in my life than to ever be put thur something like that night mare i went thur for 19 1/2 yrs. HE cheated on me over and over , I kept forgiving him, i got the hell beat out of me, accused I was running around, had to quite jobs to go home take care of my kids before he try to beat my boys, being told I was no good, told that everything going wrong was my fault. wouldnt help me out with the kids, couldnt do nothing for them unless he was drunk them show up in public drunk during the most important events like graduation,.... Taking hits so that my kids didnt get beat,,,,, then all i would hear is we need the money you need to go back to work, him taking 1/3 of his check to gamble on , !/3 to drink on and the other thrid to pay bills and having to rob peter to pay paul and feed the kids too and clothing them as well, then trying to swing the bills with what i got from him and my check then haveing to also give him at least over 1/2 of what was left.
PLus trying to keep the kids active in school and only having 5.00 to take them back and forth from band had to work my job at night so I could work with my childrens schuldes not easy with 5 children. if you want to know more just contact me and i can give you more then you wonder why.
The other thing is when others met him at frist they liked him and well they didnt know what I went thur till the started seeing the marks. but still i made excuses for him but not no more.
So before you ask this question get the facts, and understand what has happen. then try to put your self in those shoes and then try to judge it.