to much???
I asked a question like this a few minutes ago called to hard lline and an answer was given that made me want to ask this one.
Situation is this... He had an affair and moved out but says he still loves me but is not ready to move back in and be a family. We have a child. I still love him think hes worth loving in spite of all that has happened. is that right or wrong?
2006-09-09 19:22:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is the problem in life. One that loves too much and the other taking it for granted.
The jerk has an affair - is this fair? I hope he will change for the better for the family. It usually happens when he is in a crisis and the family is by his side or he learns from his close one. Good luck, hope your tolerance has a favourable effect on your life. In the meantime, look into your own life and improve it.
2006-09-09 19:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by j t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves u.. really loves u.. the way u love him..where would he be right now? And if he loves u and wants to make it work, then u both need to try and work through this together.. because infidelity is a very hard thing to get over.. u can forgive , but u cant forget.. There isnt a right or wrong in this.. its how u handle urself, and how much ur husband really does want to be part of a family again.. My husband did the same to me.. called and said he loved and missed us.. and gave me great hope of our family becoming whole again.. then one day poof.. he decided he liked his freedom better ..and the girl he was cheating with.. and he left.. so be prepared.. the longer he's out of the house.. the longer its going to be harder to put ur family back together.. But if he really wants u and ur family back.. then u both have alot of work to do.. cause u cant live like this for the rest of ur life, not knowing when he's going to leave again if some other girl comes his way.. so its going to take alot of work on both of ur parts to make this work.. but hun.. if he loved u.. really loved u, the way u love him.. he wouldnt of hurt u this way.. and even if he messed up.. he would want to be with u now..and he's still stringing u along for the ride..
2006-09-10 02:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never love too much...just love wrongly....this fella is non committed...you are because God made women to fall for the man she slept with. There's your problem...get over it...He is no
good for you...Move on...You are not loving too much you are simply a door mat...and if you want to be a door mat and be unhappy for the rest of your life then keep asking stupid questions... Or take charge of your life and move on! Be strong for your child! File for a divorce on the grounds of adultery...don't tell your husband...he'll just move back in for awhile and then later do the same thing to you all over again. Your name should not be Mrs. Doormat...he thinks it is...file for divorce...go through with it and get on with your life...I have been married since since the eighties and I seen my mother do what your doing...she wised up...remarried a great man who was a wonderful father to me! There is life after divorce...just don't sleep around! Hold out next time on the sex part and pray God will help you child!
2006-09-10 02:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation is much more serious than being right or wrong. Do you love yourself? Are you willing to let someone mistreat you because you love him? Do you want to give yourself to him regardless of anything? If so, then you deserved to be walked on, disrespected and played> Its that simple.
You owe it to yourself to stand up and be determined to not let any man rule your life. What about your child. How can you do what's best for them if you cannot do what's best for you?
Come on...don't do this to yourself. I know its hard but you can get over him. Be strong...don't be weak. If you don't stand up for yourself, believe me, nobody else will.
2006-09-10 02:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can make that decision for you. If you love someone there is nothing that can change that, ever. The question is can he make you happy? If he can do that you can get over anything. Good Luck.
2006-09-10 02:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wrong, look at yourself and make sure that you are not a little insecure, you are worth more than getting a cheater to be with.
2006-09-10 09:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him. That is enough and right as long as you do not push him to come back. Just give him a lot of space and be his friend. If he wants to come back he will...
2006-09-10 02:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mooch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course your going to love him you have his child I still love my first baby daddy. But seems to me he still loves you or just wants to be on your good side to see his kid or he does still loves you but still wants to play. Im sorry hun but I would play the game back at his A** see if he likes that sh**.
2006-09-10 02:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until he totally change and can prove to u that he really loves u..and be a father of his child...i think he is not ready yet becoz he dont want somebody gonna control his life....
u can always love him,that we always do....
2006-09-10 02:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u love him then u love him... i mean there's nothing called right and wrong in love...
i hope he feels the same way u do...
good luck.
2006-09-10 02:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋