I am a victum of abuse..... The guy, wont leave me alone.. I wish I could bounce out of this state and him never find me again... He always blames me for things he's done wrong and denies everything. He has a major drinking problem.. (An all day thing sometimes) He'll call me and say he'll never do it again, then the same sh*tty circle.. I feel like Im going insane... Anyone have exp in this situation? Help needed
2006-09-09 19:20:10 · 24 answers · asked by Tiffany A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
baby due on Holloween.... things have gotten worse since I've been pregnant
2006-09-09 19:25:30 · update #1
This has never happen to me before but I know people who has been in an abusive relationship. This guy sounds like trouble. He's blaming you for all the wrong he has done. It's obvious he's in denial. you need to leave him and get help. Stay at a friends or family's house for now until you are safe.Go get help for a support group also known as woman shelter. You can find their phone # in yellow page. Nothing you do will change how he treats you. If he hit you once he'll hit you again. If he don't want to help himself than no one can help him. You don't deserve this especial when you are pregnant. What's important now is your safety. You don't want him to be a threat to your pregnancy either.What's important now is you and your upcoming baby. If you love youself and your baby you would not want to continue a relationship like this...he doesn't deserve you or to be the baby's father.
2006-09-09 19:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I have been in an abusive relationship before, the guy went to work and I left, that was it, but from what I gather u don't live with jim, n don't get and abortion!!! That's insane, and it's not ur fault!!! Men can just be as*holes... what you need to do is get a restraining order against him hun... Then don't fall for his little lies... He WILL NOT be allowed anywhere near you or the little one... Ask your parents to take u in for safety sake... and don't do anything alone... have someone with you when you go out, then as soon as u can move far away... I know it may be hard with the baby comming but it's for your own good, and then eventually he'll give up... he is gonna hurt the baby!!! O and BTW congratulations!!!
2006-09-09 19:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Angel S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your baby is due on Halloween, have you ever thought you might be having the spawn of Satan? Anyways, your boyfriend is abusing you and that's a problem. But, it's not the only problem. You have a problem within yourself. If someone hits you and you stay with them, you're just as crazy as they are. It's probably a problem with self-esteem. You need to do something empowering that will boost your confidence. But first, you need to call the cops on him. And don't just do it anytime; do it after he beats you the next time. And he will; you know he will. Call the cops while your face is freshly bruised and cut. That way you'll have evidence and it won't be his word against yours. And don't feel bad because you're carrying his kid. It's probably better this way for both of you. I'm guessing you don't have a job. You're probably just the housewife that stays home, cooks dinner, and sits on pins and needles waiting for your boyfriend to beat you. So I would find a family member or friend to stay with after you report him. Have your baby, recover, and then get a job so you can save money for your own place or help out with the bills. I'm sure you'll have somebody to watch your baby while you're working. Remember: it's not going to get any better with him and you'd have to be foolish to believe it will get better. So take my advice and good luck.
2006-09-09 19:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by mikey062804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him, for your sake and the baby's! Trust me...if you stay with him and have the baby with him, those children always remember the child abuse...long into adulthood! I have a fiance who wakes up in cold sweats!
I suggest going to your family and see if they will help! After that, try WIC maybe? There are a lot of organizations out there to help women in this position. Please don't let yourself or your unborn baby become victims...we don't want to see you on tv because he was way too drunk one night........
I truly hope you can find the strength to get away from him!
N O M A N S H O U L D E V E R H I T A W O M A N ...ESPECIALLY PREGNANT!!
2006-09-09 19:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that.
Get away!!
Call the cops if you have to. There are places that offer assitance to single mothers, and protection. WIC offers food, and other places offer shelter. Find a relative that he doesn't know about and go there.
It doesn't seem like he needs to be around the child, so don't even file for child support until you have a restraining order.
Also, in order to keep him away from your child, you need to constantly call the cops when he screws up. This will set up a pattern of abuse and will make it easier to send him to jail.
Hell, come stay with me!! Anything to get you out of that dangerous situation!
2006-09-09 19:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order on that guy and leave.
If he isn't treating you right then just think about that beautiful little baby... your both in a situation that could turn deadly at any moment. Abusive drunks are scary, find a friend some where, move out, break it off (be careful) and contact the cops.
2006-09-09 19:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by EcXeSSive ConSUmptiON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you feel like there's nowhere to turn but there is. Find a women's shelter and they should be able to help and /or direct you in the right direction. Remember the first time he hits you and then say he's sorry is one time too many. Have you gone to the police and what did they say? I know you are pregnant with his child but do you want your child to grow up around that kind of abuse. Hope this help. Good Luck
2006-09-09 19:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunnie.. u need to do something and FAST! you have a baby to think about now..in just a few months your child will be here and im sure you dont want your bf abusing your child. you need to tell him to get help or you have to leave. maybe going with him to some kind of alcohol program or counseling will help him through it. sit and talk to him about it and let him know that you dont want that kind of relationship for you or your child. if that does not work you need to go to the police and get a protection order.you dont need that kind of life with a baby on the way. you have better things to worry about than being with an alcoholic abuser. GET HELP HUN!
2006-09-09 20:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you! To protect yourself and your child you need to build up strength and leave this loser now. I don't know if you believe in God, but if you to pray. Prayer changes things. If that doesn't work get a restraining order before he kills you or the child. I'm sure your a beautiful woman and can find someone who will treat you with the up most respect. Build up some strength..I believe you can do it.
2006-09-09 19:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Ultimate Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U cant shake'm off any way, the link will b avialable - the comming kid - It's clear he has a double charactor. Wait untill U deliver Ur child & see he may change his manners.
2006-09-09 19:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by sirawa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋