My problem is that being at a girls' school and not being part of a scene that has guys, he is my first real male friend. A guy I have conversations with and care a lot about.
Due to this I can't figure out if I'm feeling the normal outpouring of love that I feel for all my friends, in a slightly different male-version form previously unknown to me, or if I’m in love with him.
I think about him constantly, usually in a really fond way- a sort of warm fuzzy ‘Sigh-I’m-so- lucky- to- know- him’ way. I save almost all his texts and obsess a bit. I like his girlfriend but can’t stop being irrationally jealous of her and keep trying to figure out what he sees in her, what ties them together. At the same time I love his devotion to her and knowing that he’s happy with her makes me happy.
When I hang out with him I don’t think about him like that very much. I wonder what’s with me as I can see he is my friend.
If someone knows where I’m coming from and helps me out it will be appreciated.
2006-09-09 18:51:56 · 8 answers · asked by Posthuman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You make a really good point. If he kissed me I would kiss him right back.
I see that speaks volumes ^^;
2006-09-09 19:50:49 · update #1
Have you ever seen the movie " My Best Friends Wedding" with Julia Roberts? She spends the entire movie trying to sabotage her best male friends wedding because she thinks she's been in love with him for years and just never realized it until he proposed to someone else. The point being that she thought she was "in love" when really , she loved him but not in that way.
It's very hard to tell the difference when you are young, let alone when you don't have much time to spend with other young guys due to attending a girls school.
It's possible for you to love him, but to be in love takes 2 people.
Love is a great commitment between 2 people who care deeply for each other and want to share a life together.
Take more time to enjoy your friendship with him, and if the 2 of you grow a closer relationship that you BOTH are interested in pursuing then you will both find out together.
2006-09-09 19:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kris17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve got it bad for the guy. Hopefully you get the nerve to just tell him and see what happens. If not then try and score another fellow. Best of luck...youre on the right track.
2006-09-09 18:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you obviously you like him more than just being friends,but could accept just being friends since he already has a girlfriend.So just leave it at that and find someone else to love.
2006-09-09 19:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand where you're coming from... .you do like him.. a lot.. .you should probably make yourself scene, you know.. explain what you just said to him.. he'll open his eyes and see.. and another thing, you should get out more and meet the dudes.. lol.. it's always good to have a guy around.. .good luck.
<3 alyssa
2006-09-09 18:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need another male friend. you are reacting to male attention, not neccessarily true feelings for him. plus, if these feelings are true or start to become real, you are going to ruin something great. GET ANOTHER MALE FRIEND/ BOYFRIEND. Then, when he breaks up with this girl, asses your feelings and just be there for him. This may be love though. he sounds great!
2006-09-09 18:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Yes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lied all my male friends and I just tell them how I feel about them, and yes some of them have had girlfriends but hey its worh the shot! tell him how you feel
2006-09-09 18:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if he kissed you?
2006-09-09 18:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be friendly
2006-09-09 19:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋