I have been with this man for quite some time now. The love we had for 1 another couldn't be put into words. In the beginning he told me that he had a lot of material possessions: clothes, jewelry, etc. He also said he had A LOT of money. I am not, nor have I ever been a materalistic person. I like to get things on my own so having someone with a lot of money wasn't important to me. I never asked him for anything, he always offered it, but never came through. Well I recently found that he lied about all of that. He doesn't have a lot of money, lies to everyone else, wasn't out of town when he said he was...there were just so many lies. I do feel that he told the truth about being in love with me. When confronted about all of this, he denied it all & we haven't talked since. I miss him like crazy & want to work it out, but he was wrong and needs to admit that first. I can't stand a liar, but felt like he was the one. What should I do?
2006-09-09 18:49:07 · 6 answers · asked by Joelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have tried making contact with him since I confronted him. I told him that I still loved him and that I was willing to try and work things out. It would seem like the smart thing to do since I already know who he really is vs. him meeting someone new and lying to them all over again. The truth is bound to come out sooner or later! Not to make excuses for him, but I wonder if he did it to impress me or because he had low self-esteem or something. Anyways, that was a week ago and I still haven't heard anything from him yet... :-/
2006-09-09 20:10:43 · update #1
I know a little bit about this. I lied about who I was and what I was from the beginning of a relationship with a man, I now call my husband. I was bored with my life, and stuck in a rut. I embellished a lot of stories to make myself look good or better than what I felt I was. I suffered from low self esteem and vulnerability. I lied to impress him and make myself feel better. I just wanted to be loved, not realizing someone could truly love me for me. My husband saw through my lies. He understood me. He believed in me when he had every right not to. He is truly my God Send. He never came out and accused me when the lies were unfolding...he just let me be me. Follow your heart, trust your gut. My husband truly loved me before I realized what love really was. Through him, I am free..just to be. If you love this man, and feel he is "The One"...let him be free just to be. Accept him as he is. He'll come to know what he has with you. Decide what you can and can't live with, and trust that you are right where you are supposed to be and everything is as they should be. My heart goes out to you.
2006-09-09 19:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Prying Pandora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man is lying about what he has, it is probably because he is not secure in who he is. You say you love him, but do you really know him? Why would he promise you things he was not capable of giving you? Just ask yourself if you can ever really trust a man that started your relationship based on lies. I don't think I could do it. It really is up to you, but I hope you do a lot of soul searching, and don't base your decision on bad advice.
2006-09-10 01:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Scarlet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noone but you knows what you should do.
but here's my question to you --if you could have a relationship with all of his good qualities and none of his bad --would you? because that is what happened for me in my husband. he has all of my ex's good qualities and none of his bad.
but I had to let him go.
pain pain pain pain painful.
I think a relationship is loving them --even their faults and the person having faults we can live with.
And I go by past behavior a lot. I can't expect someone to treat me any different than they've treated everyone else before I showed up in their life. . .
My vote is --empty the space where he is so the one who is your wildest dream can come in. . .
2006-09-10 02:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the love were mutual he wouldnt have lied to you. The basis of any relationship is trust. So if you are going to take him back and for it to work you have to go back into it without your guard up if you can do that then great if not then maybe you should move on.
2006-09-10 01:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else you've been scammed. once a liar always a liar.
2006-09-10 01:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bob Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on....
2006-09-10 02:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋