help, what to do?

Question

I work with this person. we have chemistry and everybody sees it even if its the first time they meet us. We both play around and joke around about being together. It seems like we are soul mates. but the problem is that the person is married with a kid. I know the husband and we get along great and he really likes me as a person, but i feel guilty. I wish i was him

me and this lady have deep conversation. we tell each other everything and i mean everything. I know she is not happy. She does me harm in the sense that what i thought i wanted in a wife was wrong and that she has raised the bar by allot. Maybe to a point that only she can reach. we both keep this secret, but its killing me knowing we are meant for each other. if she were single i know in my heart we would be together forever, i really do

My question is should i leave my job or what. i hate my job, but she makes it ok. I dont really think i will find another person like here. We have done nothing in any sense

Answer 1

Uh-oh, bro. Let's see...

1) If you hate your job, no harm in looking around - you might find something you like better.

2) She's married. Do you want to be the sort of person who helps a woman betray her marriage vows, husband, and kid? That's the choice you're making if you don't pull back.

3) Nothing wrong with finding her attractive - even fascinating. Wrong comes in depending on what you decide to do about it. Tell yourself, "She's great and now I know what I'm looking for in a wife - someone a lot like her," and you're fine. Spend too much time hanging around her when you're infatuated and you're risking danger, danger, Will Robinson!

If you were an alcoholic, would you hang out in bars? Why torture yourself? It's time to pull waaay back from this lady and get some perspective. Meanwhile, you need to get out, do things you enjoy, and meet new people - LOTS of them. At some point, you'll meet someone great, who isn't attached - and you won't have to feel guilty about spending time with her.

Reality check - you are courting disaster here, and possibly making it harder for your friend to work things out at home, and torturing yourself with a Romeo and Juliet, "fated to be together" scenario that feels all dramatic and tormented, but isn't healthy for either of you.

Love her, love yourself, and take a big step way back - maybe all the way to a new job you like better.

Answer 2

You seem to be deeply in love.
What I will say is that if you feel that she needs you be there for her for you the sake of your love for her.
If you are determined to settle somewhere in your life ahead I mean marrige than please leave the job before it gets more serious and one thing more ,, ....often such friendship doesnot mean that you can be lifepartners.
God is there and he knows what is better for us.
If you both are really made for each other you will meet at even the last stage of life.
Afterall LOVE isnt alwys to be successful by tying the knot.
It needs sacrifice too.
Goodluck!

Answer 3

do as you like.