I've been married for 2 yrs and have 2 kids with my hub.... But i am very unhappy. He smokes pot and cant keep a real job, and he just mows lawn in the summer. He is never home and is very critical of me. He wants to stay together, but i've layed out my needs and expectations numerous times, he trys for a week, then same 'ol... He is emotionaly disconnected and his priorities are all wrong. He hasnt earned me or these kids. I have a male friend and we both really want to be more than that, but I'm married and I cant decide to just live unhappily in the bed i made or leave for my kids and I?????
2006-09-09 18:29:56 · 11 answers · asked by hotmamainmwc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its all wrong...your husband has issues that is beyond his control...not being able to keep a job...he might be ADD...needs to get professional help! perhaps even meds to focus! You have not committed to your marriage having this male friend...you are wrong to have him. Get away from him. Get your own husband the help he needs to lead your family properly. Get on your knees and pray for him! Pray for yourself! This male friend may seem like your way out...but you never know honey, this guy may turn on you...you may be a magnet for men with serious issues. Go get some help for the one you have and give it your all! Don't mind him being critical...take it on the chin...he is feeling quite disgusted with himself to treat you like that it makes it easier to turn the focus on you....he seriously needs help! You need to get him to a shrink in a hurry and get some counseling to save your marriage! This male friend is wrong of you...just let that fade away...and never mention it to your hubby! Just get back in there and be a great wife and mother, and support your husbands efforts to better himself. He has serious issues that can be addressed properly...Pray first then get him to the doctor!
2006-09-09 18:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and you need counseling. I have seen here of late lots of women blaming their husband - partner than in the next sentence say they r either emotionally connected or sexually to another man...
I feel that in your case your relationship has ended you have been let down and hurt. But running with your problems to a new man just takes all the bad with you. If yo0u can't sort your marriage out through counseling than end it and work yourself out than date a new guy with view to a relationship...do it the old fashioned way because in the end you will be the person who looks back with pride in your actions.
2006-09-10 01:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by lol_des 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to leave your husband, but not take up with another man right now. You too need to get your priorities in line first and live for yourself and your children before you start another relationship. It sounds like your husband is a loser, so no loss there. Good Luck!
2006-09-10 02:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by frr_ls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally advocate working things out but in this case where he would rather smoke pot than support his family, I say there are only two choices: Kick him out or take the kids and everything else you can and leave.
Good luck.
2006-09-10 01:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tiberius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your husband but do not jump into another relationship. Concentrate on taking care of your kids....
2006-09-10 04:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Irving G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you better with him or without him?
Take a long hard look about the challenges you would have without him and whether he is a good dad.
Don't leave him cuz you found someone new. Leave him cuz you know it is the right thing to do.
2006-09-10 01:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave
2006-09-10 03:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by Golosa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy for people to give advice...they dont walk in your shoes...you have to think about your children .....are they better off with or without their father.....are you ?...when my father passed away he said to me .........if you should be so lucky as to be able to look back on your life before you leave ,dont have any regrets, life is to short to say ''if only i had done this or did that''you only have one life ..you have to live it for you and your children............in closing i wish you all the best ,,god bless you and yours
2006-09-10 03:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by gry w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you see that he isnt going to change why put the children throught this as well yourself as well . lifes to short to watch the children probley pick up on his bad happits on this matter. my opion?
2006-09-10 02:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ya heart be real honest with yourself
2006-09-10 01:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋