Help! I have a wedding this month, and I was just informed by a friend you can't/shouldn't wear the same color as the bridal party. And I thought, how would I even know what color they are wearing? I bought a dress BEFORE I received the invite and I looked at the invite and it is the same color as my dress! Would that indicate the color they are wearing? Anyway, the color I picked is seasonal for the fall, which is why I picked it, and it is a Shelli Segal/Laundry dress, so wearing something else is not an option, as I am already broke between the dress and the purse I bought, which cost more than the dress! What should I do? How inappropriate is it to wear the same color? I would think a lot of people would wear the same color considering there are a limited number of options for the fall. And I am just guessing that the wedding invitations are the bridal party's color, but I don't know for sure?? Help!
2006-09-09 18:21:37 · 17 answers · asked by stylize1000 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
Ok. My dress is brown, the invite had a deep brown on the outside cover, because it is almost fall. My dress is "slinky" or chic, I suppose. The lower edge is not straight around, it is cut sort of jagged or rather longer on the sides than the front. I bought it because it was a good deal at the time even though I can't afford to NOT wear it at this point. But if you buy a fall dress in May you will get a good deal! I just made the connection tonight that brown might be the bridal party color. And, that was my first time hearing the rule about not "matching" the bridal party, although I would think it might be hard to match since my dress is more cocktailish, but then again some bridal dresses are not as frilly and fancy as they used to be, so if they wear something "plain" looking it might be confusing perhaps. I feel better that they general consensus is that I should be okay, and thanks for answering everyone!!!
2006-09-09 18:37:22 · update #1
Yes, I'm almost 100% certain there is no way this could resemble a wedding dress, and about 85% it wouldn't resemble a bridesmaid's dress. I'm thinking the bridesmaids dresses will probably be either a knee-length sheath (if she picked something they could wear again) or longer than mine. I think the jagged bottom will hopefully not have it be mistaken for anything bridal-party related.
2006-09-09 18:45:04 · update #2
Wedding invitations are usually the same color as the bridal party's dresses. However, as long as your dress doesn't look like a bridesmaid's dress, you should be fine. I would just try to stay away from basic satin dresses, as these are likely to blend in with the bridal party if they are the same color.
2006-09-09 18:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear it and hope you look great in it. As I know it, it is in poor taste to wear the same color as the bride or a dress that resembles a bridal gown or sheath. Recently, I've gone to a number of weddings and lots of people wore either ties or dresses similar in color as the bridal party and overall wedding theme color. Don't get bogged down about it. You were thoughtful enought to buy a new item for the event. Wear it with pride.
BTW, hardly anything goes by tradition or etiquette these days!
2006-09-10 01:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by hellokittyt012263 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say wear the dress. Just don't wear a corsage or carry flowers and you shouldn't get mixed up with the wedding party!
I'm not sure about that rule. How would you know for sure what color the bridal party was wearing--it's not always obvious from the invitation?
2006-09-10 01:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by JAH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who ever told you that doesnt know what they are talking about.You can wear any color you want i would suggest not wearing black as that is usually for funerals im sure you know.Your dress sounds beautiful and perfect remember the guests eyes are not on you they are on the bride as they should be.Just because that color was on the invatation does not mean the wedding colors are the same but if they are than they are just go and look your best and have a wonderful time sharing in their joyous day thats what its really about.And your right how are u suppose to know what color the wedding is,its not your job to find out so you can pick a different dress out.So do not return it wear it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-10 01:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by queen4clewis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't worry about it. My niece had bridesmaids in pink, and my mother wore a pink dress. So did a few of the other guests. No biggie. The only no-no is that you should not wear white. Black used to be forbidden, but now even bridesmaids wear black for some evening weddings.
You'll look fabulous. Don't worry about it. Just go and have a blast.
2006-09-10 01:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ann Toozie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of not wearing the same color as the bridesmaids. But I have heard never where the color the bride will be wearing. Which is usually white, off-white or ivory.
My advice...Wear the dress you bought. It's seasonal and will be appropriate.
2006-09-10 02:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear your beautiful dress and don't worry. There is not way that your dress is the exact match as the bridal party dress. Accessorize your dress with great earrings, shoes, etc and no one will confuse you with the bridal party.
2006-09-10 01:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People will over look the dress as long as its not white then you would be tarred and feathered and run out of town never to be seen from again....Yes the invitation colors are generally a good hint to what the wedding colors are but I don't think they will stone you over it ....JUST DON'T WEAR WHITE and you should be safe
2006-09-10 01:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by lynx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard that.
Does your dress look like it could be in a bridal party, I would guess not, they are usually rather distinctive.
Don't worry about it.
2006-09-10 01:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by starting over 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just wear the dress-as long as u don't wear the same color as the bride you are good to go. At least that is what I understand of the updated wedding ettiquette.
2006-09-10 01:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by smiley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋