I didn't know what heading to put this under... but I need help. When I was 10 I used to get sexually assulted my my step brot her for about two years until he moved out. He was 16 then. How can I forget about it. I'm 15 now and want to forget about it. Please help, I need advice.
2006-09-09 18:16:33 · 41 answers · asked by Kiss_Kris_xo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't and won't forget about something like that. It was part of your life that you won't ever forget. Sorry to say. Just take one day at a time. Therapy might also help. And confronting him too if that's what you want to do...although he will probably deny it.
2006-09-09 18:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The other answerer is right that you won't ever forget it but there are many things you can do to help ease the pain. One of them is to confront him but don't do it without help from an adult and without some therapy. Getting it out in the open. Telling the truth about it and exposing him for the sexual abuser that he his. You should bring charges against him. If you think you're the only one he's done this to please don't be deceived. If he did it once he'll do it again. Tell your mom. Tell you school counselor. Tell the police. If you hang onto it it will only get worse as the years go by and he will be out there molesting other little girls.
It won't be easy and it will take a long time to get through the process but once you've done and taken back the power he has exerted over you you will be a much healthier human being and gotten another predator off the street.
And there is much to be said about prayer.
Take a deep breath and go tell someone who can help you.
My suggestion is to tell your counselor or a trusted teacher. It might be easier to confront your Mom with this information if you have someone to help you through it.
God bless you in your efforts.
2006-09-09 18:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to realize that you did nothing wrong. What happened to you was not your fault.
Second,I am sorry to say that you will never forget what happened. All you can do is live a better life NOW. You need to talk to someone about what happened to you. Whether that someone is a priest,school counselor,your best friend...it can be who you want it to be. Just be sure that you are comfortable telling this person what you are telling people here.
Third,you need to forgive your step brother. I do not know if you get along with your family,or even what situation you are in. Do you see your stepbrother anymore? You do not need to be where he is.If you have a family function,go to a friend's house.
Fourth,you need to know that you will survive. Yes, there will be times that you do not think so,but there are better times for you ahead.Please, please get the help you need. Your life starts with you,and you are the only one that can change it.
I am able to tell you all of this,because like you,it happened to me too. I have a very loving husband(who knows about it),and I love my life.
Good luck to you,and take care of yourself.
P.S. Have you gone to the doctor to find out if you are ok? If not, do so.
2006-09-09 18:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by stvsgrl2006 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. There will be no forgetting but what can happen is forgiving (sounds hard now but bear with me) and dealing with your emotional overload. What your step brother did to you is obviously wrong, but you need to wonder where he learned that sort of behavior. Get yourself in to see a councilor or a psychiatrist and start to deal with the emotional scars he has left you with. Bad things happen to good people all the time, there's no getting away from it. You just need some help with the "dealing" part. Another thing to think about is this ; What you give out you get back. This means that sometime, some place, your step brother will have something terrible happen to him. Its karma. Do your best to start on the road to healing or you will never grow up to become a healthy adult. Again, I'm sorry to hear this happened to you and I hope you can get the help you need. *hugs*
2006-09-09 18:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to talk to someone you trust be it family, friend or someone in church. From there you will probably need to seek professional help. Depending on the laws in your state I doubt if anything can be done to him. But you can determine that if you want some justice done. It is not healthy for you to hold something like that inside. It will only cause you problems later in your life especially when you want to have a relationship with someone special. The longer you take, the longer the process takes. Find someone to talk to now.
2006-09-09 18:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by notoutyet72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey there is no way to forget about something like that. The best thing you can do is let someone know so that you can get the right kind of help, like proper counseling, and get through your ordeal as sane as possible. What happened to you was not your fault and shouldnt have happened, now it is time for you to get help. Good luck and well wishes
2006-09-09 18:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by Inquisitive1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Baby, I'm sorry but you will never forget about it. Trust me. Please do not let it ruin the rest of your life. Remember you are not the one with a problem he is. Do your parents know, if not you really should talk to them or to someone. Call a rape crises hot line. Talk to a trusted adult. But don't let it control you. It happened to me when I was 7 and I have never forgotten.
Find someone somewhere you can talk to and cry with. It's hard and I feel for you, and wish I could offer you more encouraging news but remember this, "That which does not kill me will make me stronger." It does help.
2006-09-09 18:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation. The best thing you can do is talk about it. Sometimes talking is hard, I know, but it will help. The thing that helped me the most(I have a similar past) was group therapy. You get to talk to many people who had experiences like that and you learn that you arent alone. I cant promise you that it will help, but I give you my word that it has helped many people and it could drastically change your life. Good luck, and Im sorry.
2006-09-09 18:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go let it out.
Call a school counselor, call a help hot line, or shoot me an email - I'll look up the info for you! Whatever you do, realize that you are bound to be a wonderful person regardless, damn the precursors or consequences. Why? Because you are a beautiful person and deserve to be happy.
2006-09-09 18:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was raped by a man in his 40's when i was 13 i dont think it is something you will ever get over or forget but there are self help books that could help you to deal with it you need to talk about it to someone you trust the more you talk the easier it will get and i am sorry this happened to you i hope you can find someone to talk to
2006-09-09 18:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by rach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋