Your wifes X was married to one?
2006-09-09 18:01:20
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answer #1
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answered by Tammy C 3
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The problem is, who do you report the abuse to?
I knew one lady who was abused by her cop husband, and several times a call was placed to 911, but the officers who responded were the offending party's buddies. They'd talk about the "hysterical wife" and make jokes before leaving, at which point the beatings began again, twice as bad.
Large police departments typically have a good internal affairs department to investigate charges against officers, but the smaller departments often have a "good old boys" organization. In those cases, calling in the state police or FBI might be necessary. Taking the kids and fleeing to a private (ie. not government-funded) women's shelter across the state line can also gain protection until the facts can be determined.
2006-09-09 18:05:49
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answer #2
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answered by Eric 5
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For the most part....cops are ethical and they do the right thing for the right reason. But in any organization there are a few bad apples. I would not expect a buddy to cover anything up for me that I have done wrong. And I would not risk my job to cover up a mistake made by a buddy.
We are harder on ourselves that we are on the public. When was the last time you got a three day suspension without pay for a fender bender in a mall parking lot?
2006-09-09 21:27:39
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answer #3
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answered by Tony 4
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Well,cops have their own internal code to cover themselves. That is how they get away with it. Unless it gets uncovered by Internal Affairs...they continue. Abusers are in all walks of life...rich and poor. Women who are in these relationships have a hard time getting out. They need help because they have been isolated and are fearful. Often they need counseling. I also would like to say that men are now becoming victims of abuse by women. It is shameful that abuse is growing so much. Abusers were usually at one time victims. So there are A LOT of hurting people out there!!!
2006-09-09 18:00:28
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answer #4
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answered by Marilyn C 4
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Because society believes you can trust the Police and no one is ever going to think that it can happen, but it surely does.
The hard thing is trying to get another Police Officer to believe that a cop is beating his wife.
2006-09-09 17:56:45
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answer #5
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answered by sarah071267 5
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first off, they are human. they make mistakes like everyone else.
but one way they get away with it is they defend their own. if you are the victim and a cop is the perpetrator, you can't get help unless you convince his comrades that he deserves to be punished. they might feel bad for you, but they may not want to risk being booted from the brotherhood and putting their career at stake.
i know a woman who was married to an abusive cop. she finally divorced and got out, but it was sad cuz she'd call the cops on him and it was his friends who always answered the call.
2006-09-09 18:03:25
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answer #6
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answered by ŧťŠ4
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purchase a e book. instruct your spouse. purely a speedy remark, with the help of accepting this habit of your wifes, you have enabled her to stay as she is. you're very wishy-washy on your question, with the aid of fact in one fact you assert that your love for her is "previous want", and which you like her alot. yet, in yet another fact, you assert that she is dominating and additionally be sure you fend for your self, and you assert that the "deal" replaced into that as long as there is water interior the refrigerator, you would be ok coming abode from paintings. She does not sparkling, prepare dinner, wash outfits, and so on. What does she feed the babies? What does she placed on the babies while the clothing are grimy? She's jealous. possibly you should work out a Christian marriage councilor. I style of sense such as you made this occasion for your self. How can a mom be an "impecable" mom, while she does not prepare dinner, sparkling, or wash outfits. you assert you "does not dare" say something to injury her emotions, yet, once you assert "you does not dare", that makes me think of which you're afraid to assert something to her. Marriage is a 2-way street, provide and take, love and be enjoyed. i think of that your severe tolerance is what have been given you into this, interior the 1st place. you assert you're Catholic? properly, why do no longer you talk over with a clergyman approximately this difficulty, and spot what he has to assert. intercourse is a factor of a stable marriage. She ought to be open to convalescing in that section, you do no longer ought to injury her emotions. She might already be sensing this approximately you, which you do no longer savor her, and in line with danger this is fueling her jealousy. circulate off jointly on my own for a weekend and circulate away the babies with a sitter. you should no longer ought to abstain from having intercourse consisting of your spouse. incorrect circulate. women are not stupid, they might sense while they do no longer look to be needed, and have faith me, she is conscious she isn't. You stay affected person? possibly this is a difficulty too. 6 years, huh? you should be a saint, besides the undeniable fact that, you inspired her, and now, you don't comprehend what to do. All i will assert is, at this factor, circulate to counceling. looks the only recourse. stable luck.
2016-11-07 00:35:15
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answer #7
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answered by ? 4
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Unfortunately, some cops are brutal. What they see on the streets affects their sainity I think. And sometimes they get away with it because their peers protect them. They should be careful though. I know one who was blown away by his own son protecting his mother. He used a shotgun. Tragic for all concerned.
2006-09-09 17:59:20
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answer #8
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answered by crazywoman88 4
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They are only ppl and some are faulty like that. They actually have to be extra careful as police officers have a moral code that goes with their job and can get fired for doing something like this.
2006-09-09 19:33:07
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answer #9
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answered by sdo3lg 4
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well for one thing they are friends with other cops get it cover for ya. for another cops are controll freaks and think they are above it . do what they want always have.
2006-09-09 17:58:31
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answer #10
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answered by terri e 5
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