We have kids.He works and pays the bills. PERIOD. He does nothing around the house. And I mean NOTHING. He's always tired. But 3 nights a week he does play softball. It's not about him playing softball, it's the fact that he is full of energy on those nights but any other night you'll find him laying in the bed watching TV. We share minutes on our cell phones. I open the bill today and see he's gone over the minutes by $100.00. What male talks on the phone that much? Majority of the calls are guys from softball team, but everyday calls. How much could you say about a softball game? And I can't imagine any man staying on the phone for 20 and 30 minutes at a time.It's not only the phone calls and selective lazyness. He is no longer sexually attracted to me and our sex life is pretty much null and void. He's only 25. How could he not be in the mood? I know he's not seeing anyone else. But I question whether he's gay. My brother was his best friend through school and he just came out.
2006-09-09 17:39:42 · 15 answers · asked by mcm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have questioned him. He joked and said Yeah. I am. then said NO WAY. He said Now that I questioned him he feels weird around other men. Like he's maybe questioned it himself.
2006-09-09 17:54:25 · update #1
Ooo. I was all set to say he probably just has a low sex drive until your last sentence. Doesn't look good. Gay men can have kids. They can be bisexual. And straight men can talk just as long on the phone as women. But, you need to find out and SOON. Don't have sex with him without a condom. And are you sure he's not seeing another woman? You need to have a serious talk with him and voice your fears. Demand answers. Good luck.
2006-09-09 17:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that his best friend has come out that he's gay would freak a guy out a little. You questioning a guy about something like that can only make your sex life worse. Build the guys confidence up not tear it down. Build him up and make sure you try to sex up the relationship a little.
2006-09-09 18:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by BURGIN24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to question his sexuality. This is actually a very common thing. A gay guy tests out the straight life just to see if he can deal with it because he doesn't want to come out with the truth for many reasons. I would keep an eye on him. Maybe bring it up with him and see how he reacts.
2006-09-09 17:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This requires a long conversation with him. Don't make it about him but tell him how it makes you feel when he does nothing around the house or the fact that he's always tired unless he's playing softball.
2006-09-09 17:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more than suspicious to me!
Now that all these gay people are out there so vocally expressing their "rights", they are FORCING the rest of us to "accept" them - like it or NOT!!! It's running RAMPANT, and trust me, the numbers of STRAIGHT men available are dwindling every day. It's really scary - and SAD - for all us STRAIGHT gals who only want a nice, NORMAL relationship with a nice, NORMAL man!
Your concerns are justifiable. It is not all that uncommon for a (secretly) gay guy to try living the "straight life" with the ex-wife, or maybe, SISTER, of another man with whom he has been involved with, or was/is attracted to. You could just be his "link" to the REAL object of his "affection" - your own BROTHER! I know this sounds bizarre and maybe even far-fetched, but it's not. These days, I know more GAY men than I do STRAIGHT ones (unfortunately!) - and I have learned how they OPERATE. I have seen AND heard of that particular scenario being played out before!
You need to get to the bottom of this BULL-Sh*t, and do it SOON. You deserve far better than what you're getting! Best of luck, sweetie, you're sure gonna need it.....
2006-09-09 18:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are guys that just aren't driven to have sex..He may or may not be a little light in the spikes..tell him you're a woman that has needs and if he isn't ready or able to take care of you then you'll just have to get taken care of elsewhere..Might just say okay that's something he can get out of..
2006-09-09 17:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an eye on him. I had an ex who I thought might be gay. He was WAY too dependent on his best friend. I still think there is something that wasn't right about that whole situation, but he hasn't come out yet. I don't think it's ridiculous at all, but something is going on.
2006-09-09 17:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by elda_rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks very suspicious. You have a right to demand that he help around the house. Tell him you won't fix his meals or wash his clothes unless he helps. You really need to see a marriage counselor. This marriage is in serious trouble.
2006-09-09 17:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arriving at the conclusion that he is gay because of this behavior is a bit of a stretch. On the other hand, he is at least inconsiderate, and at most, superfluous.
2006-09-09 17:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Heckel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him if you think there may be a chance. if that's not how you want to approach it then tell him something is wrong between you and he and have a good talk about it because if that's not the problem then its something else. but there is a problem definitely....
2006-09-09 17:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋