ok so there was a dance tonight.. and i was planning on going with my friend (the rest of our close friends weren't going).. but then she calls me 2 hours before and tells me that she went somewhere else with her band friends after her band thing.. (basically flaking on me)
soo i decided not to go to the dance since she wasn't going.. and i didnt really know who else was going..except for some not-close friends..
but then she calls me at 8:30 and tells me that she ended up going!! (and that she "hopes that i'm there"). but basically. i didnt go because of her .. but she ended up going anyways with her band friends.. should i be MAD?!
(i'm generally a very happy person.. but this caused me a lot of anguish and i pretty much started crying like 4 times tonight.. really lame i know. but her and another friend have been acting reallyyy stupid to me so i guess all of this crap has finally made me explode.. maybe?) grr
2006-09-09 17:25:40 · 20 answers · asked by orange juice 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe you should hang out with your not-so-close friends and become friends with them so the next time your friend flakes on you, you have more friends to be around. Yeah it sucks when ppl do that stuff but if you're gonna vent to it in a way that doesn't hurt you or anyone else. Play a video game, play your music really loud, scream, cry, punch the crap out of some stuff animal you don't like anymore, write it down to get it out of your system, I don't know. But what I do know is holding it in is NOT healthy!
You can be angry, but don't go around doing destructive things about it.
2006-09-09 17:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you feel hurt. Why couldn't you go with her and her band friends. I don't think she is a real good friend. A real friend wouldn't have done that. I would of still gone to the dance and hook up with some boys or hang out with the girls and totaly ignore her and her stupid band friends.
With friends like that who needs enemies.
If she calls and you answer say that your busy. Always look good in your apperance just incase she see you. Make new friends that you can have fun with. So when see you she'll see that your happy and that you don't need her. Ignore her presence if she is around don't be to eager to be her friend.
2006-09-09 17:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad, I understand if you are hurt, but maybe you and your friend are drifting?? Never let someone take the fun away, you should go next time, even if by yourself. There is always at least one person you could spark up a conversation with. It is better than sitting at home. Also, she is not a true friend for not telling you she was going. Dump her and enjoy your youth. Good luck
2006-09-09 17:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by jaded 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first reaction, yes you're really going to get mad, don't suppress it,, it's a human reaction, next you'll feel sorry for yourself. but as you have said, your a very happy person, i know in my heart, that you will surely find the positive side of what your friend did. my advice to you is ... you should always have a back up plan when you and your friend plans on going somewhere together.. so that if your plan did not materialize, you'll not end up being left alone. and also, if you end up alone, pamper yourself girl, go to someplace by yourself and unwind, or in a gathering, meet new people to add to your friends.
2006-09-09 17:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that, that was really really messed up on her part becuase if she was a true friend then she would have told her other friends that she had other plans, and when she went to the party anyways then that meant that she didnt really want to go with you anyways. you dont need her i would have been hurt too. and as far as crying i would have done the same thing, so dont beat yourself up for being hurt becuase that was a really F'ed up thing to do to someone you supposaly called a friend. and so you should tell her exactly how you fell word for word let her have it becuase she deserves it!!
2006-09-09 17:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO YOU HAVE A R I G H T TO BE MAD?!? ok, if it were me, i would have called her up and told her off like 20 times. You should SO not be her friend anymore. even know how rude that is? ok, sorry, that pisses me off just reading this. 2 answer your question, that's crap and she doesn't sound like a very good friend 2 me. i'd forget her.
2006-09-09 17:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by ILuvTheUsed&MCR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do have the right to be mad at her. First of all tell her she needs to grow up. Second tell her don't call me I'll call you routine. Who needs friends like that while you have plenty of enemies to go around....
2006-09-09 18:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Krissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be mad at your fickle and inconsiderate friend. A mature person learns from the experience. Find a new friend, preferably one whom is more mature than your previous friend.
2006-09-09 17:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sky Ranger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should gone anyway..you don't need someone to hold your hand...You could have had fun without her being there,,But then she went anyway and you missed out ...Live for yourself and what you want ..If your freinds don't go doesn't mean you can't ...You have to make your own choices and do things because you want to
2006-09-09 17:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She got you on this one..next time you see her, first thing first...SLAP HER!
They're probably laughing at your a s s right now..friends like her consider a person like you nothing but a loser!!! so yeah you're a loser to her and too lame to hang out with.
Girl, slap her hard !
2006-09-09 17:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Bibi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋